Falling in love is the easiest, most beautiful thing in the world. You’re aware that’s just your initial enthusiasm. You wish you could be this happy forever and ever, but at the back of your mind, you know that it might be just a temporary fling.
But you keep working on the relationship. It’s the most successful one you’ve ever had. You understand each other, you make each other laugh, and the spark seems to be there for a really long time.
You’re sure this is the real deal… Or are you?
Does a successful relationship guarantee a successful marriage? Not necessarily.
We’ve all seen those perfectly happy couples get a divorce soon after the wedding, although they’ve been happy for years during their relationship. Yup, that’s exactly what happened to me. I married my high-school boyfriend. The great love that was supposed to be a lifetime connection. It failed.
Why does this happen to good relationships? Where do things break?
I analyzed the matter for quite a long time, so I think I have few potential answers.
Yes- A good relationship leads to a good marriage
Don’t get me wrong; a great relationship is still necessary for a good marriage. You don’t go marry someone just because you feel like your time has come.
You marry someone because you connect really well, you have tons of fun together, and you cannot imagine your life without this special person. That’s a good relationship, and it’s the essential foundation of a fulfilled future.
When you’re wondering whether or not you should marry someone, these are the questions to ask yourself:
- Do you still feel the butterflies? I know that’s a cliché, but do you? Does this person still awaken your senses?
- Are you still able to have fun with this person even after spending some boring moments together? When you’re in a relationship, you can’t always be out there exploring the world together or exploring each other. Sometimes you’re tired and bored, just like every other person on Earth. Are you able to recover from such downtimes? Can you get back to excitement together after recharging your batteries?
- Do you know this person?
- Do you want to spend your life with them?
The answers to these questions are indicators of a good relationship that’s ripe for marriage. It’s a good foundation to have!
But there are no guarantees!
I had the answers to those questions. Everything seemed perfectly flawless. Don’t get me started about those comments saying that you have to go through several relationships to find your true love. That’s not how things go.
Even though this was my first love, it was real and it didn’t break because we needed to experiment with other people. It broke because we didn’t get married for the right reasons. We got married simply because we thought that it was the next logical thing to do.
So let me ask you a few other questions:
- Do you feel like you’re the only one who’s not married yet?
- Are you thinking about getting married because that’s what your family expects you to do?
- Are you doing it because you think that it’s just a signature and it won’t change anything?
If you’re doing it for the wrong reasons, then no; the good relationship won’t guarantee a successful marriage.
Let’s make something very clear: nothing is a guarantee for a successful marriage. You’re the only one who knows how much work you’re willing to put in it, and your partner is the only one who knows how they can invest the same level of effort.
No matter how happy you seem at this moment, things might break into pieces.
You should definitely get married to the person you consider to be the one. But take my advice on it: pick the right timing, too. You both have to be ready for this major step forward!