Marriage in real life is not like it is portrayed in mills and boons or hallmark movies.
Marriage is just the first step taken into a real life where even your partner starts to relax and take you for granted because now you are married and the bond is extremely difficult to get out of.
No matter how picture-perfect the family seems and how inviting they were on the first day, it always takes a couple of weeks or months for the opposite party to show their true colors.
Slowly and steadily, the nagging start, the arguments, the lies, and then he said – she said, not to forget your in-laws who are bend on creating issues in your life. Peace will depend on how well you deal with such disrespectful in-laws.
The truth behind the picture
Relationships with your in-laws are always tricky.
Without a doubt, the dynamics differ from family to family. It is all about how tightly knit the families are.
At times, the bone of contention is just the fact that men feel as if they are bailing out on their family and they have to do more to show their support and the wives feel as if they are being abandoned by the person who vowed to protect them and have their backs for the rest of their lives.
Where there is a problem, there is a solution
There are a handful of ways through which you can demand respect while not demeaning yourself to their standards. You need to learn how to deal with disrespectful in-laws while maintaining your dignity.
1. Lose yourself in fairy tales at the start of your relationship
It is easy to believe all the unrealistic promises made by your significant other. The point to remember is that you, yourself, have to keep realistic expectations. Do not believe every word that leaves your partner’s mouth.
Always keep a check on reality.
2. Set your boundaries right in the start
Let everyone know that this is your endurance level, and intimate them not to cross it.
If you would roll over and play dead every time, it will become their habit to insult and humiliate you. Your partner will also start to take you for granted, and it will end in your loss.
3. Keep your distance with toxic people and toxic topics
Keep in mind that they are not worth spoiling your mood over. They are not worth your time, energy, or effort. Be a better person.
4. Make this motto your mantra
‘Fake it, till you make it.’ It will be difficult at the start.
You have to make your space in an all-set family. You will be the odd one out. People will be hesitant before accepting you with open arms. Remember, it’ll take time and effort, but with the right people, it will totally be worth it.
5. Take your spouse in confidence
Let them know in a calm manner what the case is and trust them enough to see things as they are on their own. Do not tell them how rude the family is being, show them.
6. Avoid at all cost, public feud or drama
You’ll only make a fool of yourself. People would only make fun of you and your choice that led to this fiasco.
7. Be the bigger person and fake it/get along during special occasions
People have their lives to fight, but special occasions come once or twice a year, and relatives remember each and everything for the rest of their lives.
Families fight, but do not make a billboard on it for people to gossip about.
8. Be considerate
Find out who is like what and deal with them accordingly. If you have realized that the mother in law is cranky, think about your mother.
What would you have done had it been your mother? That woman gave life to your husband; he is standing there happy and healthy because of her. Respect her for that.
Respect and patience will help you deal with such disrespectful in-laws easily.