I've been helping couples navigate the ups and downs of relationships/marriage for 38 years. I like to focus the therapy conversation as much as possible in the 'present moment' although I know that everything that we have experienced up until now influences the 'movie' that we bring to the present moment. I actively help each partner express/their thoughts and feelings in 'first person' 'non violent' language. I introduce certain perspectives that can improve the conversation (I think of marriage as a 'long conversation). For example: 'there is no bad person and that includes yourself' and 'either person can interrupt a bad circular dynamic', etc. I can teach you the skills to help you 'make differences work'.
