My work with couples seeks to help partners to recognize and overcome dysfunctional interaction patterns that cause them to become stuck feeling deeply neglected or abandoned, afraid or coerced by their significant others, and to take up defensive or aggressive positions with regard to one another which suppress and ultimately destroy their capacity for real intimacy and mutual vulnerability. I work bilaterally to promote each partners' capacity for empathic understanding of their partner's pain so that they actually want to make the changes required to rekindle their loving connection to one another.