But that doesn't mean they're easy! Most of us learn how to "do" relationships by observing our parents. Some of us were raised with fantastic examples of clear communication, fair fighting tactics, rituals of connection, and calm, regulated discussion. . . right! It's very rare to learn how to be in relationship well. And just like people can use a coach to train for a triathlon, if you want to have an exceptional (or even not frustrating and disconnected) relationship, you may need some support.
I'm currently in Level II training of Stanley Tatkins' Psychobiological Approach to Couples Therapy. PACT integrates attachment theory, developmental neuroscience and arousal regulation. This approach helps couples develop secure-functioning relationships by understanding early attachment and its effect on brain and nervous system development, and its influence on current experience in relationship. Clinicians learn to help partners regulate each other’s emotions, maintain secure bonds; and foster positive, enduring relationships. PACT is quickly gaining a reputation for treating couples thought to be untreatable.
Please call today; You might find that you are capable of more intimacy and connection than you ever knew possible.