It's normal for couples who love each other to somtimes have conflicts. But if the conflicts occur too often, it may be indicating that you have some unresolved issues with your past. It's what we call 'baggage'. That’s why therapy involves not only developing healthy emotional management techniques to address the behavioral concern that you're experiencing together, but also the exploration of how the past has in effect created the present situation. Session work then entails exploring your personality, interpersonal style, parental relationships, childhood events, traumatic experiences, emotional distress, romantic relationships, coping mechanisms, and elements of identity formation. Relational health is much easier to manage when you have insight and awareness to how both of you interact with and relate to yourselves and the world around you.
