Marriage is often about tension. Brain tissue of memories and alerts are ften responsible for all the feelings and reactions of fight, fright, freeze, fawn. To learn about brain function allows me to have better ability to keep the camera turned on me, and invite my brain and thinking to my best state of mind. Regardless of the other's person's state. I didn't know this when our son got himself in some very big trouble: trial, juvenile hall, county's biggest restitution fine to date. I lived in terror, and my marriage took the hit. Changed focus while getting masters in social work, toward inviting others into the marvel of the neurobiology of trauma and thinking on brain, body, behavior and belief. I invite people to learn to talk back to their amagdalas, even in hijacks, to find new safety and clarity of mind. Then the marriage has a fighting chance in this every changing, hard on marriages world.
