You love your partner but liking them is getting harder and harder. You’re exhausted from trying to have the same fights over and over again. And sex, well, you want to want to but you haven’t been interested in longer than you feel comfortable with. In fact, every time they get angry, you pull farther and farther away. You are not interested in planning a trip or giving a gift or even trying sometimes.
You’ve tried giving them the benefit of the doubt. You’ve tried doing everything their way. You’ve tried shoving your feelings down deep and biting your lip to keep the peace.
Coming to couples counseling with me isn’t about taking sides or repeating the same fights. It’s about rediscovering what you love about yourself and about your partner. It’s about rediscovering the passion, the respect, and the love that you dreamed about when you committed to each other.
They might not change. You might be afraid that their totally logical approach will overwhelm me. Both of you might be tired and convinced nothing will help. No matter what, if you want it, if you still love each other, then spending time with each other is never a waste. Together we start to heal the hurt and the anger and create a safe place to remember the love and fun and comfort that you both had for each other.
