You may remember fondly how things used to be. You still dream that the life with your partner could be as exciting as it was when you first got together. Everything seemed so easy. We get hooked on those feelings and expect them to last. We become confused, disappointed, and angry when reality clashes with what we thought would last forever. When this situation continues it drains away both life and love.
I specialize in working with couples because we can benefit from some guidance when their primary relationship is not working for them, robbing them of the life they desire. Thus, I'm straightforward, providing questions, support, instruction, and feedback. I’m active in our interaction. No bobblehead for you to deal with. You’re the expert on the details about you; my job is to help you make use of who you are to become more of whom you want to be.
Becoming a more effective partner is the most efficient way to change a relationship. Therapy becomes effective as you apply new knowledge to break ineffective patterns and develop better ones. The key tasks of couples therapy are increasing your clarity about:
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The kind of life you want to build together
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The kind of partner you aspire to be to build the kind of life and relationship you want
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Your individual blocks to becoming the kind of partner you aspire to be
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The appropriate attitudes and skills to work as a team
To accomplish this, I alternate between working with the couple and each individual. The demands of you creating a satisfying relationship requires each partner to become the best individual they can become. This entails identfying what each of you want from the relationship and then being more intentional in the behaviors which contribute to and maintain a fulfilling relationship.
