Many people enter couples therapy hoping their partner will become someone different, but no therapist can help you accomplish that. Instead, I try to identify the dysfunctional habits and vicious cycles that keep occuring between them so they can do something different to reach a more functional way of being together and fall back in love with the people they have always been. I ask couples to make a 90-day commitment to therapy as I don't think anyone can change their habits in less time than that -- and then each partner can determine at that point if they have found it beneficial enough to continue or if they have gotten what they need in the 90 days.
