My approach starts with communication 101.
The better you can articulate what your feelings are, the better you might understand your partner..then we will see what we can't learn about ourselves we will learn to be approachable, and maintain transparency for trust. "Communication is key, approach and delivery is everything.". Me, I said that.
PS, love is taking another's best interests and well being on asor ahead of your own. Ask yourself if that's what they are doing, and then, is that what you are doing.