Intimacy, the intimate connection, is the most important aspect of the a marriage relationship. This is not a paint by numbers process where we learn to do this and do that and the relationship happens. Of course, there are things to do as well as not do but those things are not what makes a great marriage. What makes a great marriage is the emotional connection, the committment to a the partnership and the follow through throughout life. Where there are problems, we seek not to fix them, but to discover JOY.