My work focuses on helping conflicted couples reinvigorate their relationship. To accomplish this objective, I spend time helping each individual partner discern their personal role within the mutual distress they are experiencing. I also help partners identify and understand ineffective behavioral and communication patterns that are disrupting mutually satisfying conflict resolution. Toxic underlying issues that undermine communication such as ineffective communication patterns learned at an early age are also identified and coaked to the surface. In general, I foster a team approach, and hardly ever sit back and simply observe. At times, I will assume the role of an educator, at other times I am a referee. Sometimes, I may be more like a coach, and at other times I will be like a mirror that reflects back what I am observing. In all instances, my objective is to challenge spouses and couples to accept responsibility and embrace healing and change. Since I believe that therapy should not end once the couple has left my office, couples are often assigned regular homework to help sustain the momentum of therapy. While the well-being of a couple’s marriage is my primary focus, as marital satisfaction improves, spouses also report enhanced personal growth.
