I am Alayna Baillod, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) and the practice owner of Self Care Impact Counseling. We have offices in both Lakewood and Longmont Colorado and we offer online counseling.
Marriage therapy gives you a chance to understand the negative cycles your relationship keeps falling into. It gives you the opportunity to recognize where these patterns come from and how to break out of them. For instance, in an argument with your spouse, you may seem angry on the outside, but feel anxious on the inside. Your anxiety may stem from other negative cycles in your life, such as past trauma, heartbreak, or betrayal. My practice aims to get to the root of your feelings so you can express them in place of your anger, ensuring healthier communication.
We offer counseling services to any couple—straight, gay, lesbian, trans, married and unmarried. We are well-versed in a number of different therapeutic approaches, but the two we most commonly use are Gottman’s theory of relationships and Emotionally-Focused Therapy (EFT). Gottman’s theory is a very skills-based approach to relationships that focuses on playing to your strengths to solve conflict. The EFT approach digs a little deeper. It looks at how understanding a relationship’s negative cycles can prevent them from unconsciously happening again and again.
Our hope is that, by focusing on your strengths, understanding negative patterns of behavior, and learning to reconcile your differences, you really can fall in love again. We don’t mean you’ll never face conflict, or that your marriage will turn into some starry Hollywood daydream. We simply mean you’ll be more prepared and equipped to face conflict when it happens. When we work together, there is nothing we can’t accomplish.
