How to Have the Best Wedding Night Ever – 9 Fun Tips

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Updated: 30 Apr, 2023

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Let go of wedding-night pressure, because you have a lifetime together and even if things aren’t perfect, you’ll laugh about it tomorrow.
Nurture connection with simple rituals like sharing food, lighting a special scent, and pairing a playlist to help you feel seen and closer.
Plan small, intimate moments you can savor together—like a relaxing bath, a midnight walk, or a handwritten note—to gently deepen your emotional closeness.

Whether your wedding night is one of many nights that you’ve spent together, or if it’s going to be your first intimate evening together, the pressure and expectations will be overwhelming.

We are all exceptionally good at over planning everything most of the time. We end up bringing or planning for a lot of things that we won’t end up doing. You will be exhausted on your wedding night (even though people don’t often tell you that). You might be overwhelmed with emotion, drunk, and under pressure to consummate the marriage. All of this will potentially lead to disasters occurring and things going wrong.

The first thing that you should do on your wedding night (so that you can enjoy it and make it special) is to go with the flow. And to recognize that even if things don’t go perfectly, or if one of you falls asleep, that there’s always tomorrow. In fact, you’ve got a lifetime together. In the future, you will laugh at your wedding night disaster (if you have one).

You could always reenact your dream wedding night on your first wedding anniversary. So if it didn’t work out quite as expected the first time around, you could enjoy trying again on your anniversary.

But with all that said, here are our best tips to help you make your wedding night amazing.

1. Food for thought

Most brides and grooms often either forget to eat during the wedding or are too excited or anxious to eat. So when you are in the comfort of your hotel room (or wherever your wedding night is occurring), there’s no doubt that the hunger pangs will start to make their presence known.

Order a few appetizers in advance, or have some of the food from your wedding sent up to your room, for you both to enjoy. It will help alleviate any wedding night nerves, open the floor for a quick catch up and serve as a reminder that you are not strangers. And well, food can be an aphrodisiac too! Don’t forget to get things moving intimately by feeding each other!

2. Build memories with the scent

Fill your room with fragrance to create a scented memory of your special night. Choose a fragrance that you only use for your wedding night, or other romantic occasions spent with your spouse, so that you can savor the scent. Use again on Valentine’s day, or on your anniversary (to bring back all of those beautiful memories of your wedding night). The fragrance will add to the ambiance and enhance the mood. Scented candles, room sprays, and essential oils sprinkled on the bedding will be perfect.

3. Add some music

Create a playlist for your wedding night. Consider starting the list with some of the songs featured in your wedding, and then add all of your favorite songs that are in-keeping with the mood you want to set. Don’t forget to pack the equipment you need to play your music if you are staying in a hotel. You could even plan your wedding night playlist together before the wedding – for extra intimacy and commitment to the mood.

4. Plan your attire

Slip into something sexy when you are finally alone together. It might seem obvious, but it’s noted here so that you don’t forget the obvious! Take time to enjoy choosing something that you will feel great in, and that you’ll enjoy wearing for an evening.

Plan your attire

5. Write a love letter

Ok, ok, so it’s your wedding night, and you’ve been declaring your love for each other not just for the whole day, but also throughout all of the weeks and months before your big day. But wouldn’t it be nice to write a note to each other that you can share on your wedding night? Perhaps you could fill it with all of the great memories you’ve built together, or your dreams for the future together. Or maybe you can create a list of everything you love about each other.

6. Take a relaxing bath together

Invest in some indulgent bubble bath, and make sure your honeymoon suite has a fabulous bathtub so that you can spend time during your wedding night relaxing in the tub together. Don’t forget to bring the champagne and some finger foods such as strawberries with you, so that you can enjoy the moment. Just make sure it doesn’t send you to sleep!

7. Take a midnight walk together

After you’ve indulged in all of the exciting activities that should occur on your wedding night, why not take a romantic midnight walk together. Really invest in acknowledging that this is the first walk that you’ve taken together as Husband and Wife and enjoy the intimacy that walking at night can bring as you pass by others who have no idea how special your day has been today.

8. Do not disturb

Hang the do not disturb sign on your door if you are staying in a hotel and don’t bring anybody back to celebrate your special night!

9. Plan for something special in the morning

Enjoy a long and lingering breakfast in bed together (with champagne of course). Then consider taking a joint massage, or an intimate activity together before you start meeting up with the rest of your family and friends. Reflect on your wedding day over breakfast and recall the highs and lows.

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