Relationships are a synonym for money, time and most importantly, emotional energy.
The more you put in in your relationship, the more it shapes your life and your choices. With so much time, love, and energy invested in a relationship, it can be difficult to let it go for reasons such as your kids, your health, and your lack of dependency on yourself.
However, when the damage has already been done, no amount of therapy and salvaging can protect it. Once a relationship moves towards doom, you must focus on cutting yourself loose and focus on your own well-being and mental health.
This way, you can move forward towards a relationship you deserve. Following are the signs that it is time for you to let go of your relationship.
1. Goodness is no longer present
Now even though shared values and strong chemistry are essential for the survival of any relationship, at the day’s end, solid and strong relationships are built on the goodness present between two people.
Kindness and goodwill towards one another, supporting your significant other even when they are wrong, and the willingness to forgive mistakes and flaws that they have are factors that hold up a good relationship.
Support, admiration, respect, dedication, and tolerance are what relationships are about, and the goodness of this bond does not disappear overnight; it erodes over time. Some signals showing the loss of goodness are anger, meanness, distance, irritability, and lack of respect.
2. You are not respected
Respect is the most vital aspect of any relationship.
It even leaves trust behind because you cannot trust someone who doesn’t respect you. Even small things matter because they ultimately reveal their true feelings and character.
Disrespect appears in many forms, and you may not be able to recognize it right away, but you will feel it. It feels like being kicked in the gut, and when you start to feel it happening very often, you should walk away.
Behaviors such as lying, insulting, and cheating are all different forms of disrespect.
3. It is never about you and all about them
While every commitment is different, in a relationship, both people should have enough room to develop and grow. They must have their own dreams and aspiration in life as well. They should have space to allow their interests to be included in and have their needs met.
When relationships are unbalanced, they tend to revolve around a single person.
The person around whom the relationship revolves feels satisfied whereas the other person feels used and resentful. They feel tired of living someone else’s life. If you are the other person who is never acknowledged in the relationship, then try to create some space for yourself and be vocal about what you want and what you need.
If your partner gets upset by this or doesn’t respond back, then you must walk away and find your own identity.
4. You are trying very hard
The energy flow that both people put in the relationship is fairly equal most of the time.
The give-and-take motto allows both partners to have their wants and needs met. However, a relationship starts to deteriorate when one person is doing all the work in order to keep the relationship afloat.
This kind of relationship creates an unbalanced environment and the person working too hard can get resentful. Thus they may find it hard to maintain the relationship. On the other hand, the person receiving it can get more and more complacent with the passing of days.
Always remember, when you try very hard to get someone, they start to pull away. So, try to take a deep breath and a step backward.
See what happens when you don’t work too hard. If your partner starts to get some responsibility and works on the relationship, then getting back the lost energy can be easy.
However, if your partner steps back as well and drifts further away, then it is time for you to let go.
5. Letting go of any relationship is not easy
The thought of losing the person who once meant the world to you can have a devastating effect on your physical and mental health.
However, sometimes the relationship you are so attached to emotionally can be extremely toxic for you. Sometimes, this relationship can be a burden you have to hold on to, and once you let go, it can be an amazing decision for you.
So try to understand what a relationship is, make sure equal effort is put in, and ensure that you have love, loyalty, and respect because, without these things, a relationship is meaningless.
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