I have been working with couples in private practice since 2008. I completed Level I Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, and I use some Gottman Methods in my couple work.
Before making a first appointment I always to talk to each partner on the phone, because it's very important to me that we start off on a level playing field -- i.e. both partners need to participate in choosing the counselor to avoid feelings of collusion. I also want to hear from each person about their therapy goals and discuss how I may help.
Most people want communication skills, and this is a big part of the work -- learning not to react, give the benefit of the doubt, treat each other with compassion, and understand what you and your partner are really saying that you feel and need. Emotional and physical intimacy is paramount to feeling connected, and is often fraught with issues from each person's past.
This is not easy work, and it often isn't fun, but it can be immensely rewarding. Please call me for more information. Phone, video, and in-person appointments are available to CA residents.
