I combine therapy for healing the injuries to trust within a couple, with coaching on the principals, values, and skills, it takes to enjoy a loving relationship.
Many couples suffer from feeling there is only tension between them, and little sense of playfulness or being close friends, but do not make the connection with their low value on intimacy/in-to-me-see.
When you take a vow to be someone’s lover, it is both sacred, and a course in developing what it takes to bring the other to a place of trust, ease, playfulness, and coming forth from his/her depths. There is no dichotomy in that capacity, i.e. it is the same capacity in the bedroom as outside of it. The sexual moments are an important classroom, the Phd course, in cultivating that capacity. For it is in the sexual moments, that all other distractions are put aside and the entire focus of one’s attention is on what it takes to allow the other to feel held in Love.
When the connection between spouses is a strong thick cable of playfulness, deep trust, and having each other's back, the daily shared challenges of tending to the children, the home, and the finances, are resolved in ways that promote well-being, high functionality, and Joy.
