I help couples from a systems perspective. What this means for you is that I’m going to be looking for patterns. Often a symptom will get our attention (fighting, no sex, bad sex, communication problems, financial stress, physical pain and sickness, a child misbehaving in school and/or a sustained decrease in performance) and then we go chase each symptom down, it’s kind of like that whack a mole arcade game. What I do is different. I’m going to be looking for some of the processes happening underneath it all to find the fuel source for the symptoms. I work with many couples at such an impasse of communication that it feels like “I can’t even say anything; it’ll just turn into a fight”. I call this inflammation. I’ll work to get this systemic inflammation down so that we can get the two of you back to being grounded in yourselves and back to being connected to each other and working as a partnership.
