In marriage and couples counseling, I want to help you and your loved one figure out why you feel disconnected and what you can do to work towards finding a new place of wholeness and connection in your relationship. No matter where you are in your relationship today, I am confident that both of you can break out of unhealthy cycles and heal the emotional wounds that keep you apart.
As we work together, I will listen for the underlying stories, negative communication patterns, and unmet needs that make your relationship difficult. I will also look for your strengths and explore the positive times in your relationship? What attracts you to each other? What do you love about your partner? What made you fall head over heels for each other in the beginning? Answering these questions can help you stay grounded when your relationship feels stale, reminding you of all the reasons to keep going.
Additionally, couples counseling often involves looking at the individuality of each partner. I want you and your significant other to get a clearer picture of who you are individually—your boundaries, your needs, and your desires. This makes it easier to communicate with one another. And when communication is better, deeper romance and intimacy usually follow suit.
I like to formulate a counseling plan so that our work together has a direction and purpose. I will frequently incorporate your own words when developing the plan. This helps make therapy most effective for reaching your goals and objectives.
I am a certified Gottman Method therapist (Level 2). The Gottman Method is a form of couples therapy with over 45 years of research. This modality looks at what pulls you away from each other and what draws you together. The Gottman Method is useful for soothing criticism, breaking out of unhealthy cycles, and creating lasting closeness and connection.
In the end, seeking help is the most important part of the healing process. As I often tell my clients, the hardest machine at the gym is the front door. If you and your significant other are willing to put in the hard work and committed to healing together, I believe there is nothing you can’t accomplish.
