I believe that a successful marriage requires no fewer than two people willing to exhibit the humility to look at themselves and their own issues to learn how they (most times inadvertantly) hurt their partners. We don't know sometimes how being ourselves in relationship can be perceived as hurtful by our partner, who actually just speaks a different relational language. Are you willing to learn your partner's language and are they willing to learn yours, so the wounding can stop? Let's get to it.