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Matthew Alexander, PhD
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Matthew Alexander, PhD, Psychologist in Charlotte, NC
Matthew Alexander, Psychologist


Dr. Alexander is a licensed psychologist specializing in the treatment of couples. He has been a couples therapist for the past thirty five years. Dr. Alexander is also an internationally acclaimed educator and public speaker. He holds the distinction of being the first psychologist in North Carolina to become a Full Professor of Family Medicine at the UNC-School of Medicine. He has written several books and multiple professsional articles on the use of cinema as a teaching tool and originated the Google search engine word: cinemeducation.
He approaches couple therapy in a multi-faceted manner, drawing on narrative, family of origin, solution focused, Gottman and emotional focused couple therapy techniques. He has developed a unique approach to couple therapy called the Couple's Pyramid which is tool based and sequential, addressing (in order) the key couple issues he routinely encounters in his practice, namely commitment, consciousness, communication, conflict resolution and connection. He attempts to individualize couple therapy to meet the unique needs of each couple, whether it be having a safe place to talk, learning specific skills such as emotional granularity and introducing novelty into the relationship or bolstering positive regard. One of the most powerful aspects of his practice is the use of cinema to teach couples important aspects of coupling such as: resolving interpersonal wounds, working through infidelity, managing conflict or understanding the key role of emotional expression in intimacy and sexuality. He also makes creative use of metaphor, paradox and story in his practice to help clients understand key aspects of optimal relationship function.
Matthew Alexander is also listed in Best Marriage Therapists in Charlotte

Licensing & Certifications:

  • Licensed: Practice License Verified
  • License State: North Carolina
  • License Number: 1053, received 1984
  • Licensed Practicing Psychologist

Services Provided Via:

  • In person

Works With:

  • Individual
  • Couples
  • Family

Working With Marriages for:

  • 35 Year(s)

Hourly Fees Range:

  • $150 - $200

Language(s) Spoken:

  • English

My Articles

How Marriage and Happiness Can Be Enhanced With 5 Simple Activities

Save Your Marriage

How Marriage and Happiness Can Be Enhanced With 5 Simple Activities

Marriage and happiness should in an idyllic world, spoken in happy unison. However, despite the best intentions, happiness in marriage can sometimes be ...
Niceness Vs Kindness in Relationships-what Matters the Most?


Niceness Vs Kindness in Relationships-what Matters the Most?

I recently had a client in my private practice tell me that he was tired of being nice to people and that from now on, he was going to be kind instead. ...
3 Key Tips to Overcome the Feeling 'Gotten' in Your Relationship


3 Key Tips to Overcome the Feeling 'Gotten' in Your Relationship

During the midst of his separation from his wife Katie, Ben, as played by Bruce Willis in the 1999 movie The Story of Us, recalls the experience of feeling ...
Is Empathy a Friend or Foe?


Is Empathy a Friend or Foe?

There is a wonderful scene in the romantic comedy drama The Story of Us 1999). Ben, a separated father of two, has a powerful flash of empathy for his ...

Office Location

1018 East Boulevard,
Charlotte North CarolinaUnited States 28203