I help couples make sense of how their past pain continues to show up in patterns that impact their relationship today. And it’s time that you are heard, understood, and cared for again! I teach you how to be “unstuck,” and stop those reactive, repeating patterns. As a couple’s therapist, for both typical or neurodiverse partnerships, my role is to guide you in session to connect with your partner, giving you tools to repair & find the hope, and re-ignite love. My work even can focus on intimacy, since I’m trained in working through difficult topics like desire differences, rejection, affair repair, and even re-starting intimate experiences. Skilled in scientific, evidence-based models, I primarily utilize EFT, or Emotional Focused Therapy, plus RLT (Relational Life Therapy), as well as Gottman Method or other time-tested developmental therapies to repair your relationship. Another speciality is working with Neurodiverse couples, as I have years of experience working with this population and am a Certified Austism Spectrum Clinical Specialist. My work includes assessments and making plans on how your traits, your strengths, add to, or challenge, a relationship. I help determine relationship goals and identify values that work for you both. Maybe you need guidance in how to manage your sensory sensitivities so you can express them to your partner. Or is it adapting your worldview from “solo experience” to one of "partnership satisfaction” that needs to be learned? With neurodiversity there are so many different levels of social skills, and partners often appreciate work towards learning how to accept negative feedback or “constructive criticism” and how to address problems in general. Together we will focus on flexibility, not rigidity, while still caring for your partner and your unique self. Couple’s counseling can guide you to build awareness of priorities, and of breakdowns in communication with significant others, while regulating and co-regulating. Learn how your efforts can be appreciated and recognized by neurotypical significant others, while maintaining your true self without the burnout from masking.
