My work as a couples therapist focuses on communication over crtiticism, improving the friendship within the realtionship, and reestablishing emotional connection and intimacy. It’s important for me to see how you fight – but I’m not going to spend the session refereeing a heavyweight championship between the two of you. You can do that at home. What I will do is moderate the levels of anxiety in the room because, when you’re operating from a place of heated emotions, you have lost the ability to communicate rationally.
And that’s not a you thing. That’s just how human beings operate on a biological level. I’ll help you move beyond the anger and frustration and into a place of compassion, vulnerability, and understanding. You’ll stop assuming and start asking, making it easier to identify negative cycles, break them down, and develop new positive experiences with each other.
We’ll be working together, whatever the outcome. I’ll help close the gap from being rivals towards being on the same team. Falling back into your old ways – automatically reacting – that’s easy.
But laying down a new foundation and creating a new pathway of choice? That’s hard.
Having a therapist who will facilitate the change and support you need to help you with whatever decision you make about your relationship.
