I prefer not to meet with a couple together. You may think this unusual, but allow me to explain. Did you know that most couples quit couples therapy in the first three sessions? This is unfortunate, because, unless the issue is quite minor, most couples will need more than three meetings to get things going in the right direction. The result? They don't receive the help they seek.
There are common sense reasons for these abrupt departures from therapy. It is extremely painful and humiliating to sit in a psychologist's office and have your spouse present a list of your personal failings. Sometimes this is done out of a desperate attempt to help the psychologist quickly understand what is "wrong" with their partner. Or perhaps it is done out of frustration and anger. But regardless of the reason, why would anyone return to counseling if they've had a negative experience?
By meeting with you and your partner separately, you'll be able to speak openly about the relationship's problems without fear of making things worse. Moreover, it provides me with the opportunity to do some crucially important coaching, especially giving direct advice about communication that is disrupting the marriage.
