I use a combination of relational/talk therapy with somatic therapy. What that means is we will discuss different ways of talking to and relating to one another, but I have found that without working with our nervous systems, some triggers and responses will not change, even if we can see them and understand then. Essentially we will have achieved our goal when two partners or spouses see the other person as their strongest most understanding resource when struggling with intense emotions.This does not mean we become codependent and expect our partner to always contain for us, only that we know that our partner understands and empathizes as much as we might for ourselves.
