Does it feel like you and your partner keep missing each other? Do you find yourself having escalating arguments that leave you both feeling frustrated, unheard, and alone? The dance of adult attachment can be complex, as we all bring past hurts and our histories into our current relationships. Fear and shame can flow underground like a hidden river and carve a valley between partners, and healing this rift involves attending to those fears, hurts, and histories. In therapy, we will investigate the dynamics that can keep you separate from one another, and begin to build more authentic intimacy that can sustain you through the challenges of life. Both monogamous and polyamorous relationships are most welcome in therapy with me, as well as couples beginning to explore the possibility of non-monogamy.
I work primarily from an attachment-lens and utilize aspects of emotionally-focused therapy in my work with couples. I work to bring greater attention and understanding to the emotional processes occurring beneath the surface, making vulnerability safer, and giving our emotions more space to be attended to and understood. I also incorporate a family systems focus to explore families-of-origin and potential intergenerational patterns that might be showing up in your current relationship.
