For marriages that feel fractured — but not finished. Maybe an affair has come to light and everything feels unstable. You’ve gone from being partners to adversaries. Or worse — polite roommates. Maybe the fights have escalated to the point where you don’t recognize yourself or your partner in the middle of them; you’re not the same people you were before deployment. You may be reeling from disclosure of infidelity, same-sex attraction, or gender concerns, stuck in the same escalating argument, or avoiding intimacy because it feels tense, complicated, or loaded. You grieve the marriage you once had — or the one you hoped to have.
If you’re willing to honestly examine how you interact, meaningful repair can happen — even after betrayal. In therapy, you can be honest & safe. I hear the hurts beneath anger & step in to soften conflict so counseling doesn't cause harm. You'll understand what happened, why it happened, & what needs to change for intimacy to be renewed, not just resumed.
I’m Dr. Heather Poma, psychologist & marriage and family therapist. In marriage counseling, I help shift negative patterns to rebuild connection—without abandoning your values. As an Army veteran, I understand how military life and trauma strain relationships. I have hope for your marriage, even if you feel hopeless. I offer faith integration if desired. I also work with Christians questioning their gender or sexual identity. E-mail to schedule a free consultation.
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