I am a couples-focused therapist in West Hartford, CT supporting couples move from stuckness and reactivity to falling freshly in love. I draw from 15 years of experience and training in evidence-based approaches including TCT, EFT, and AEDP for Couples. My approach to couples work is distinct in several ways. First, rather than focusing on what is wrong in the relationship, together we'll uncover the felt experience of love that has become buried over time. Next, you and your partner will speak directly to one another from the first session on: what you long to have with, give to, and be received by the other. With affirmation, structure, and increasing independence, you'll begin to have a new conversation. Another distinguishing feature of this work is close attention to emotions and other aspects of internal experience. With attentiveness and kindness, I invite partners to slow down and speak from their embodied awareness. These "I" statements can be deeply received by the other partner and invite increasingly attuned responses...ones that at last match each partner's deepest longings. From this increasingly secure place, couple members can begin healing the relational deprivation and trauma that often underlies patterns of conflict and distancing in daily life. Every day I am inspired by the transformations I witness and, when present, by the thought of the children who benefit from the secure base of their parents' relationship. Love spreads.
