I believe that we human beings, at our core, yearn and need to be deeply loved by someone we love. We need emotional safety in our deepest relationships, and to be able to share with our intimate partners our vulnerable feelings and unmet needs; often, the difficulties couples have are grounded in lack of emotional safety and unmet emotional needs. As a couples therapist, I work to help the partners establish, or re-establish, emotional safety, and reach a level of connection where they can express their vulnerable feelings and unmet needs with the expectation that their feelings will be empathically heard, and their needs will be met. My approach is based on EFT (emotionally focused therapy for couples), and informed by Gottman principles; I have received training in both. My general approach to psychotherapy is based on psychodynamic theory, with features of cognitive-integrative principles, and heavily influenced by self psychology and attachment theory.
