You keep having the same argument on repeat, or you notice one of you pulling away, getting defensive, or going quiet right when you most need to stay connected. You're both worn out from feeling unheard, on edge, or distant from each other. Or chronic pain or illness has become a third presence in your relationship, reshaping how you connect and show up for one another. What you want is real connection, relief from the cycle, and steadier ground together. I work with couples to change trauma driven, attachment based patterns using EMDR, IFS, EFT, and Pain Reprocessing Therapy.
My focus areas include relationship strain, trauma, life transitions, chronic pain and illness, and neurodivergent relationships. Together we look at the patterns behind your reactions as a couple, including the role the nervous system plays in conflict and in physical pain that spills into the relationship. My approach blends multiple modalities within an attachment-focused frame, aimed at building safety and more grounded connection between you.
As we slow these patterns down, you both start to see clearly what's driving the cycle, whether that's the conflict itself or a nervous system caught in a pain loop. If you're ready to trade reactivity or ongoing strain for steadier ground and real communication as a couple, reach out and let's talk.
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