Darlene Lancer is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and an expert author on relationships and codependency. She has counseled individuals and couples for 30 years and coaches internationally. Her books include "Conquering Shame and Codependency: 8 Steps to Freeing the True You" and "Codependency for Dummies" and seven ebooks, including: "10 Steps to Self-Esteem," "How To Speak Your Mind - Become Assertive and Set Limits," and "Dealing with a Narcissist: 8 Steps to Raise Self-Esteem and Set Boundaries with Difficult People." They are available on Amazon and her website, www.whatiscodependency.com, where you can get a free copy of "14 Tips for Letting Go."