WHY CAN'T I REACH YOU?
It is so painful when the connection between you and your partner breaks down. It may feel like you are having the same argument time and time again.
You may think to yourself “If I could just get them to understand!”
But somehow, the words get lost in translation.
And the same pattern plays out again and again.
You love them, but there are times you are just not sure it is… well, working.
You want to talk it out, connect, and fix these problems. You long for those moments that felt easy, connected, and comfortable. But you are just not sure how to recover them when these feelings strike.
You feel stuck, alone, and frustrated.
And the pain and anxiety feel unbearable.
Sometimes you wonder...is this even fixable?
THERE IS A SECRET LANGUAGE TO THIS THING WE CALL 'LOVE'. IT'S CALLED ATTACHMENT.
Relationship repair can sometimes require us to learn a new language.
A new way of seeing our partners and even ourselves.
(And a heck of a lot of courage and commitment.)
Attachment theory has taught us that we are all wired for connection.
Take away the sense of connection...
And pain, chaos, and confusion ensue.
The stronger the connection- the stronger we are.
At home. In relationship. And out in the world.
Couples therapy is a place to learn a new language of love.
To learn a new lens to view each other through.
To learn not only how to reach for one another- but also how to effectively respond when either of you is in distress.
To stop an argument mid-sentence and how to speak to
'What is REALLY going on'.
There is a way back to each other.
I know, right now, this may feel hopeless.
But, there is a path that can help you reestablish the sense of security, passion, and intimacy your relationship once held.