There is no cookie cutter approach to improving relationships. Figuring out what it is that is coming between you and your partner is a critical part of the process.
It’s like going to the doctor and you have some complaints, and they tell you “quit smoking, get plenty of sleep, start exercising, and take a multivitamin”. Yeah, that’s good advice in general, but that’s not going to fix the deteriorated disc in your back, or your autoimmune disease. The practitioner needs to figure out what it is that’s causing the actual problems, because without it, problems will pop up again in the future.
Once you have discovered the problems, it takes a practitioner who can make use of many different treatment skills and techniques in order to be the most beneficial. You want to trust that your therapist has the experience and knowledge necessary to help you. Someone who knows the research. Someone who has published research in top journals himself. Someone who knows how to approach the kinds of problems you are experiencing.
The relationship you’ve worked so hard to build is on the line. It has the potential to bring you so much happiness. It’s worth saving. I believe you can trust me to help you in a time of need.
