Alexandra Linscott, PhD
Psychologist | Claimed

When relationships experience difficulty, often times our reaction is to look at the rationale or content of what is being said and determine who was right or wrong, aggressor or victim, winner or loser. This inevitably leads to painful and exhausting arguments that end in resentment or scorekeeping. My approach to couples therapy is to hear the issues that cause conflict but focus on stepping back and exploring the underlying needs and emotions of both partners that drive the conflict. It is through the examination of the pattern of connection that light is often shed on the breakdown. I work to make sure that both partners’ experiences feel heard and validated but also have a clear idea of what they each need to actively work to help the relationship grow.