Self-esteem can have a major influence on how we choose our partners. People with a low level of confidence might think that they don’t deserve to be in a happy, rewarding relationship and can end up making the worst choices or coping with an abusive partner. Take our quiz and find out if low self-esteem is preventing you from finding love.
1. Do you feel you can fully express your thoughts and feelings when you’re in a relationship?
A. Not at all
B. Mostly
C. Yes, I can be myself
2. Do you doubt yourself as a good partner?
A. Yes
B. Rarely
C. Only when I’m introspecting
3. Do you compare yourself to other people like you?
A. Yes, a lot
B. Sometimes
C. Rarely
4. When you’re trying to learn something new, you:
A. Put a lot of pressure on yourself
B. Make sure I keep trying enough
C. Allow myself enough time to learn
5. When you make a mistake, you:
A. Feel pathetic about myself
B. Feel guilty about it
C. Feel bad and apologize for it
6. How well do you get along with people you’ve just met?
A. I maintain my distance
B. I let them initiate the conversation
C. I try to break the wall and get comfortable
7. Can you show your vulnerability to your partner?
A. Not at all
B. Mostly
C. Yes, absolutely
8. Can you accept your weaknesses?
A. Not at all
B. Sometimes
C. Yes, all the time
9. Do you ever feel “unlovable”?
A. Often
B. Rarely
C. Never
10. Is financial security more important for you than having an authentic connection?
A. Absolutely
B. Not really
C. Not at all
11. Do you put up with the behavior you don’t like from your partner?
A. Very often
B. Rarely
C. Never
12. Do you enjoy intimacy with your partner?
A. No, it feels awkward
B. Moderately
C. Yes
13. Do you feel valued at home?
A. Not at all
B. So-so
C. Yes
14. Does your partner perceive and validate you as you wish?
A. Not at all
B. So-so
C. Yes
15. Do you keep yourself busy all day long so you don’t look at your problems?
A. I do it all the time
B. Occasionally
C. Rarely
