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  • Yesinc answered a question on Sep 10, 2017
    Marriage counseling did nothing for me. Does it really work? Should I try again?
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    Marriage counseling works but there are conditions. First, you have to be willing to do the work and strive to make changes (if you don't make changes, nothing changes). Second, you need to get rid of your ego and start working as a "we" instead of an "I" (get rid of the blame and focus on solutions rather than problems), and most importantly, you need to find a counselor with real training in relationships. Just because they are licensed and do marriage counseling doesn't mean they have specialty training in relationships. In other words, don't use a general practitioner (MD) when you really need a cardiologist. Keep in mind also that it takes time to make changes that last. It generally takes 4-6 sessions with a good counselor to start making real changes. It also greatly depends on how much you are willing to work on your relationship.
  • Yesinc answered a question on Jul 07, 2020
    Can you tell me how to fix a relationship?
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    The only way to "fix" a marriage is by changing how you communicate and relate.  This often means work.  Best if you seek out a marriage/couples counselor who has training in relationships (not all counselors have specific training).  Asking friends and family will most likely not be helpful and can often cause more problems because they will have a bias towards you.  A trained third party who is neutral and can teach you better relationship skills will help fix your relationship.  
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