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  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    What are some of the marriage counseling techniques?
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    Techniques in marriage counseling vary with each counselor. Approaches used in therapy are often intentionally chosen and are tailored specifically to a couple or individual. The most popular techniques that work today are those that reduce stress and anxiety, and promote positive communication. There are literally hundreds, and the counselor will have to gain a comprehensive knowledge base of the individuals and the marriage to determine a) what individual issues need to be worked upon (.i.e. trust issue that stem from abuse in childhood), and b) what marital issues need to be resolved? The third, is c) How should the issues be resolved/what approaches can be used? Determining how to proceed on #c will depend on the causes, influencing factors, personal histories, communication style of the couple, and other factors. Talk therapy, cognitive-behavioral, psychotherapy, and visualization types, are just a few of the modes that can be used.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How can small problems in relationships be avoided?
    Small problems can be related to any number of issues, incidents, or disagreements. What matters most is how we deal with them. Small problems can arise relating to household chores, parenting styles, habits, expectations, and even, what to have for dinner. Small problems can be avoided by establishing and maintaining positive communication with your partner at all times. Trusting one another enough that you can talk about any issue or situation is imperative, because many problems stem from poor communication. Basic communication, such as calling when you will be late coming home, remembering to put the toilet seat down for her, and conveying your own wishes and expectations, is the key to avoiding fights that stem from festering problems.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How to deal with small relationship troubles that later on become major issues?
    How: Identifying, and vocalizing your awareness of the problem is a necessary first step. Often the problem stems out of a lack of communication, poor communication, and lack of action. The resolution is to overcommunicate – spouses need to talk often, and do so respectfully. The communication and lack of action issues are most common and could be manifested in the following ways: Example #1: You may not point out something your partner does that bothers you, but over time it continues to bother you, while your partner is oblivious. Negative feelings tend to fester as they are harbored within you, and this can lead to an eventual explosion. How does this issue intensify? After an explosion has taken place, neither party is willing to change because the communication around the problem was ineffective. The problem is still occurring, and now, both partners do not feel comfortable sharing their feelings because they are afraid of starting a fight. As a result, both individuals stop nurturing the relationship, cease communication, and lose trust and respect for one another. Now they are taking each other for granted, just going through the motions of life. Taking each other for granted may lead to a whole new world of issues; since expectations are now at their greatest and there is very little appreciation for each other. Example #2: A husband feels like his wife nags too much. He tells her, but she doesn’t stop nagging him. He has told her that when she nags, the tone of her voice sounds mothering and the types of things she nags him about make him feel like she doesn’t trust him. When she refuses to change, he eventually stops talking about it, and resigns himself to this reality. Meanwhile, he begins to spend longer hours at the office, which leads to more of his wife’s wretched nagging. His time away from home causes her to feel unloved, and she resents him. At the same time, he feels controlled, which leads to more time away from home.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    I am looking for a marriage pyschologist that can help me in coping with stress. Please help.
    Some psychologists specialize in special modalities of therapy aimed at reducing stress or anxiety. Hypnosis, brain spotting, the M-wave, and visualization, are methods of cognitive behavioral therapy that can help reduce anxiety or stress by changing how the brain responds to stimulation. An example is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy that is often used in the treatment of irrational fears. In an oversimplified description, this therapy is applied by exposing the individual to the idea or presence of the issue they fear in small doses, slowly increasing the exposure so that the individual is essentially desensitized to it. You can seek out a therapist with a specialization in stress management, Desensitization therapy, meditation, Rapid Eye movement, and similar tools. If you haven’t identified the problem, or don’t have the clinical terminology to label it, don’t worry; receptionists or assistants that work within these clinics are usually quite helpful and can help you choose by talking with you, and asking you to describe what’s happening.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Can I get some free marriage counseling at the local church?
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    Churches generally do offer marriage counseling; although, they typically do this for established members. You may be able to offer a nominal payment for services that will be paid as a donation to the church, if you are not members. Otherwise you may attend a few sermons prior to talking with the clergy there. If the ministry agrees to help you, have clear and specific questions in mind that you would like to have answered.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Can you tell me some couple therapy exercises that I can try from home?
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    There are a few free programs online that offer self help exercises; you can find these in some books as well. I advise starting with some questions; you can almost make a game out of them. The very act of putting together your own toolbox and creating games and exercises can promote bonding in and of itself. Going online, you can search for marriage questions as place to start the creativity flowing. You could make index cards, starting with ten or twenty questions. You and your partner will take turns asking and answering one another’s questions. The type of questions you want to ask should relate to personal feelings and views; try to aim for questions that will yield answers to aspects of your partner with which you are not totally familiar.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How are marriage and family counselors different from each other?
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    There are counselors that primarily work with families, as to include parents, siblings, and stepchildren; however, marriage and family counselors are often one in the same. One can safely assume that any marriage counselor has studied coursework in family sociology or family counseling as well, though their studies may have differed slightly. Therapists and counselors typically need to satisfy the requirements of their states in order to become licensed. Any licensed therapist who specializes in marriage therapy, should be qualified to work with families as well.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    What are some christian marriage counseling questions that I should ask?
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    Christian couples preparing for a lifetime together will want to explore a discussion that entails a description of broad, overarching perspectives of their personal faith, as well as the small and specific areas in daily activities. For example, broad and general questions might relate to one’s expectations for planning a family, what one’s relationship to god feels like; with the more specific questions relating to attitudes toward sex, child-rearing, when and how often to engage in prayer, etc. Compatibility in religion is just as important general compatibility, and specific aspects of living are every bit as important as the bigger picture. The point is to try and learn as much as you can about your partner.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How useful is relationship counseling through online mode?
    This can depend on the quality of the program, and the person using it. The downside of online programs is that they can’t be personalized to you or your situation, so try to find one that seems to address the specific needs you have or problems in your relationship. Sometimes, there are programs available for free that an individual or couple may be able to try for free as test subjects. One may have to do a bit of research work to find quality programs; be wary though, those advertised for free are usually either scams or else they may just waste your time. Reputable marriage therapists with their credentials listed (like Ph.D), are usually stronger sources; stay away from anything you can’t prove is legitimate.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Can you tell some therapy for couples that can help them in long run?
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    Finding tools and strategies that help is the first step; once a couple identifies what their weak points are, they will want to stick with what works. While there may be other programs that are useful, one should never underestimate the power of positive communication. A friend of mine once entered an anger management program in high school. The class was chosen for her and she did not want to be there. However, though the class was centered around anger management, the main curriculum taught students about identifying feelings, understanding how anger works, and provided a plethora of tools for communication. Now 35 and married, my friend still uses the tips she learned in that class in daily interactions, with her husband, with co-workers, and anyone else. Why? Because the material was so applicable it really stuck in her memory. Not only do I feel personally that setting some communication rules and boundaries will help over the long run, I also urge you to learn what works well for you and your partner, and rinse and repeat for the longevity of your marriage or until better strategies come along.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Does attending seminars on christian marriages can make your married life better?
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    Attending any type of relationships seminar can improve married life, if the seminar is a quality one and resonates with you. Christian seminars can definitely prove useful in Christian marriages, since the teachings are centered around faith as a large part of one’s daily existence. Try attending one with our partner, but do your research well prior to signing up, so that you have a clear understanding of the length of the seminar, and what it hopes to teach about. Some seminars are money wasters; but many can be educational and will inspire and empower you as a couple.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    I need to know some best wedding presents ideas.
    When it comes to gift giving, there are rules. Remember to always gift gifts from the heart, be creative and unique, and never give an unwrapped gift. Handmade, rare, and personalized items will go over well, these give the recipient a memory which they will cherish forever. Avoid gifts that are cliché or rushed; rushed gifts come through on the delivery.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How to save a marriage after several chances of suspected infidelity?
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    I am thinking the operative word here is “suspected”. Obviously, suspected and actual fidelity are very different, but not so much for the experience of the partner with the suspicion. That said, intuition is frequently spot-on, especially if you know your partner has cheated before. On the other hand, we can certainly have suspicions of things that are not happening. But if you are suspecting infidelity in your marriage, it means that there are trust issues that need to be addressed. Redeveloping trust is imperative for any relationship’s success. Some spouses go as far as to hire private investigators to help them discover whether their partner is cheating. This is too bad, since it means they actually have to sneak around to find out information rather than just having an open and honest discussion. The point is, saving a marriage with significant trust issues can be done, but it will take work. Counseling is a necessary pursuit in this type of relationship.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Does couple therapy really work?
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    It depends first on the goal of the couples in therapy. Most of the time, a couple is trying to improve or enhance married life though therapy. But there may be other goals. Spouses that plan to get divorced, but still reside in the same home with their children, for example, may want advice for how to proceed with divorce. Other couples have experienced issues like infidelity. In this case, one person may feel confused and not sure what to do. Couples therapy can help solve problems in the opposite direction, too, such as whether to file for divorce, or how to begin a separation. The short answer is yes, couples therapy does work, however, it is not a magic pill, and it doesn’t work the same for every couple.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How to look for Christian marriage counselors?
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    If you haven’t questioned the clergy at your church, you can run an internet search for “Christian marriage counseling” and I’ll bet you get quite a few items. Look around your area for community resources, and talk to anyone and everyone that may have some ideas or know someone.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Why are people so against gay marriages?
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    They say that people fear what they don’t understand. This statement certainly holds true in this situation. And while people are against gay marriages for different reasons, the most common reason is a biblicalone. People believe that God intended for unions only betweenmen andwomen. The bible is also used to teach standards of morality and such, which, not coincidentally, change with culture over time. As such, many religious people have altered their interpretation of biblical scripture or have adapted their faith to fit with the reality in which we currently live. Generational differences are why so many more older individuals take issue with gay marriage. It is a big pill to swallow for a person that was brought up in a time where homosexuality was considered abhorrent. Not only do they not understand it, but they are probably afraid of social change, too.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Is marriage compatibility dependent on astrology?
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    Opinions vary on the subject of astrology and whether it is a good metric of compatibility. Those with expertise in esoteric formulas will swear by the accuracy of zodiac readings. Those with whom seriously study astrology, also use it as a compass when meeting new people. They can use the zodiac to describe a person with whom they have never even met. Experts can also provide insight as to whether two people are compatible, and the zodiac can even provide detailed information about personality flaws, as well as what disagreements two people will likely encounter. That being said, information gleaned via astrology research is not always accurate; nor is there any scientific basis to its claims. To say that compatibility is dependent on the zodiac is a bit of a stretch. Though fun to read and think about, it is not a guide one should use exclusively.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Need some marriage counseling tips that can put my disturbed marriage on track.
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    It is not uncommon for couples to encounter periods of hardship and distress in marriage. My advice is to start with communication first and foremost; in the meantime, running an online search of therapists in your area, and getting that first appointment is your main priority. Even if you are going through a phase, problems can worsen or crop up again later on – so it’s best to tackle them now. Starting with communication means that you start communicating more, and check yourself that you are communicating respectfully. Checking in with your partner is important, and remember not to interrupt her. When she says something you do not agree with, respond with “hmmm,” or empathetically, “I can see why you’d feel that way.” Keep disagreements at bay or agree to disagree. Avoiding blaming statements, and owning your faults rather than deflecting or becoming defensive, are minor adjustments that yield a big return, and your partner is bound to see –and appreciate- your effort.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Do gay couples need counseling?
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    Same sex partnerships are not dissimilar from heterosexual partnerships, really. However, gay couples tend to face a very different set of obstacles. For example, gay couples wanting a family will need to consider the alternatives, adoption, surrogacy, or in-vitro fertilization. The couples will need to have well-developed communication in order to lay out these complicated plans. They will need to have a clear agreement about the roles each partner will fill – who will sacrifice their career to care for a baby, how housework should be divided, and so on. They will also inevitably prepare to support one another in conflict, and dealing with discrimination from family members, or public entities. Gay couples invariably encounter social stigmas and convoluted bureaucracy which systematically impacts their ability to exercise certain rights or receive services. For example, federal privacy laws may prevent one from accessing her partner’s medical records, and she cannot sign on her partner’s behalf. The red tape may affect a couple’s ability to apply for government aid, adopt children, sign as beneficiaries, or attain a home loan. Indeed, it is the social pressures and stratification brought to same sex couples in western society, which certainly create need for added support for couples leading alternative lifestyles.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    My marriage is in crisis. I need advice as soon as possible.
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    If truly in crisis, there are hotlines available, (some are toll-free) that are available 24 hours a day, seven days a week. If you do need to speak to someone right away, search the internet for crisis hotlines in your area. If you don’t’ find one locally, some have toll-free numbers. The person you talk with may not be able to solve your immediate issue, but you may find them very helpful, even if you feel a little silly calling them at first. The crisis line operator should be able to a)refer you to agencies that can help, b) listen and provide advice, c) comfort you and reduce your anxiety. It is OK to consider and plan for divorce if it comes into your mind. In crisis, finding a good marriage therapist is a good idea if you are still willing to try and work out the issues you face.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How can I find a marriage counselor?
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    Marriage counselors can be found by looking in community agency directories (nonprofit community agencies will have these), looking in the yellow pages under counseling, or by searching the internet for counseling agencies in your area. You can also ask your primary care practitioner (they should have alisting), or talk with family members or a trusted friend if you know one that has used a counselor. If you belong to a church or synagogue, you can talk with your rabbi or minister as well, as religious organizations often provide marital counseling at no cost.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    What things about wedding counseling should I know before approaching it?
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    Perhaps an open mind is the most important thing you will need to have with you in counseling. For optimal results, be prepared to be completely honest, and to be willing to follow the advice, and to apply the tools you are given, not just during the sessions, but in your daily lives. Expect that the counselor will ask you very personal questions – and do not worry – they are trained to do so in a tactful and respectful way. Assume there is nothing theb therapist hasn’t seen or heard, you will not surprise or frighten him or her. Also, the more you have thought about your situation and prepared for counseling just by considering the issues, the better off you’ll be. Write your thoughts out and know what you would like to bring to the discussion. You will save yourselves time and your counselor a lot of guesswork if you are able to convey your perspective
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    I am married since four years and looking for counseling. Need help.
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    To find a counselor in your area, you might start by gathering some names through an internet or yellow pages search of counselors in your community. Then, narrow your options; you should be able to find some information about each therapist or agency you find, especially if doing your research online. Consider proximity, cost, and quality as key factors. Therapists will usually have their specialties listed, as well as insurance providers, modes of practice, and their educational backgrounds posted. Sites like healthgrades.com also post user reviews and recommendations or complaints related to providers, which can help you to make an informed decision on which counselor you will see
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Please share some awesome marriage gift ideas.
    Some of the best gifts are those which are, a) unique., b) handmade, and c) personalized. Do you have a craft? If you can make pottery, or you sew, crochet, or bead, for example, what better time than now to connect with those skills and make something truly memorable? To get the creativity flowing, consider: · Rare items,(especially heirlooms), · Travel tickets and vacation items, · Anything engraved (pocket watches, jewelry, Journal, Flatware) · gift certificates - to fancy eateries, classy clothing stores, dessert shops, anyplace special he or she would like to shop or dine Your gift will be a hit as long as it’s a unique one from the heart. Avoid giving those old domestic clichés as gifts- casserole dishes, and blenders, unless the specific gift is very high quality, unique, and well-suited to your partner’s tastes
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Tell me some christians books on marriage that I can refer for help.
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    Check out the following three best-selling Christian relationships titles in Self-Help: Marriage Help: 5 Steps to help your marriage today God's way, by Steven Henriquez. One More Try: What to Do When Your Marriage Is Falling Apart by Gary D Chapman The 11 Rules that end Fights Forever by Adam and Michele Tigges
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    What is a marriage counsel?
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    The word “counsel” quite literally means “advice”. A marriage counselor, therefore, is simply a person who provides advice. A marriage counselor specializes in providing advice that relates to marriage. Counselors do not have to be licensed. Therapists do. Therapists are more than just counselors, and do more than just offer advice. Depending on your state and the level of education the therapist has, he or she can use specialized methodologies, exercises, and applied techniques in practice. Although counselors may have professional skills and experience, using a licensed therapist guarantees qualification at a professional level, and they can apply a wider range of treatment models.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Are there any family marriage counseling programs?
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    Licensed therapists will undoubtedly have past coursework in family therapy, family sociology, child development, and related fields. Graduate programs may be called “Marriage and Family Therapy” (or something very close), are offered via certain accredited universities. In order to become a marriage and family therapist, one must have a bachelor of arts or science degree. Some counselors take a clinical approach (scientific) and some take the human services route (arts based). One degree is not better than another; they are different. One may result in more clinical practice (evidence based, medicine), and the other is more spiritual or philosophical (focused on art therapy, hypnosis, or visualization tools). As such, one should start with a bachelor’s degree in human services, counseling psychology, or a related field, and must be accepted into a Marriage and Family Therapy graduate program. They will complete two-three years in that program, much of which will be spent conducting research, teaching, and working in the field to attain experience, known as ‘clinical hours’. Check the universities in your area to determine where you can pursue a program, if you are serious about the field.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    How benefitial is online christian marriage counseling?
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    Christian marriage counselling can be very beneficial for whom faith is a significant aspect of life. In general, Christian marriage counseling is not necessarily more or less beneficial than therapies that are not faith-based. Rather, the most important fact to keep in mind is that therapy types and therapists need to mesh well with the couple receiving the counseling. A Christian marriage counselor will not work for a non-christian family, just as a regular marital therapist with no training in religiously based therapy will not work well for families that prioritize faith. Sometimes Christianity-focused counseling is beneficial if it addresses specific problems in marriage that are related to faith. Because faith is a very personal, and variable journey, two people will carry out their faith in different ways, and within the same religion, will have their own interpretations of faith, morality, scripture, etc. That said, the potential benefits of any method of therapy may be determined, in part, by the following factors: * Whether both spouses ”buy in” to therapy (they both want the support of a therapist or counselor and believe that it may help), * The degree to which the relationship is damaged; * Whether both parties can stay positive, open minded and willing to apply the exercises, advice and methodologies. * The level of trust established between the therapist and clients For couples that receive counseling through the Christian church, their commonality in faith can be a venue for education and healing. Scripture can be read, interpreted, and ultimately used as a base from which to derive answers. Under the right conditions, this approach will inspire the couple in new ways, promote trust, and may ultimately strengthen the bond.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    I am struggling in my married life. Need some marriage guidance.
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    They say knowing is half the battle; so if you know you are struggling, it sounds like you accept some responsibility for your own part in the struggle, whatever contribution you have. The reality that this is a marital problem, not your spouse’s problem. I say this because human nature seems to compel us to blame our partners for the issues at hand, and forget, during conflict, that marriage a two-way street. The place to start is by initiating communication with your spouse in an open minded way. You need to be honest and yet, tactful. Practice those areas in communication that are weak within you. Do a full and very honest inventory of how well you listen, provide reassurance, share, and how well you maintain your tone of voice in the face of frustration. Ask yourself, do you honestly avoid blaming, deflecting, and projecting behaviors? Do you speak your truth? Do you use I-statements? Chances are, every one of us will know deep inside that we can improve in one, if not all, areas. Discuss what you feel you’re struggling with, and ask for your partner’s perspective on what needs to change. If youacknowledge what they say without becoming defensive, deflecting, or creating a power struggle, your partner will most definitely appreciate it. Demonstrate active listening, by quieting yourself while your partner speaks, acknowledging their perspective, and applying small changes that show you are paying attention. For example, if your partner says you don’t help out around the house enough, maybe you disagree, but do just a little more anyhow; maybe try something new. Perhaps one of the things you don’t do enough is to take out the trash. So start by taking the garbage out. When you do, do so cheerfully and with a smile, make sure she sees it, but don’t rub it in.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    What are some of the best books on christian marriage?
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    Two of the most popular titles currently selling on Amazon.com are, The Meaning of Marriage by Timothy Keller, You and Me Forever, Marriage in Light of Eternity by Francis Chan.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Does marriage counseling work for couples?
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    The word ‘counsel’ simply means ‘advice’. A Counselor is a person that gives advice. Marriage counseling can be formal or informal, professional or casual, but in all circumstances, seeks to enhance interpersonal relations and quality of life, between married couples. Counselors frequently address family problems, communication breakdowns, differences of opinion, trust issues, and other common themes. Generally, counseling works by a process of investigation, wherein the goal is to identify the problems present in the relationship, and secondarily, by application of spiritual, meditative, communicative, or cognitive-behavioral techniques, which serve to overcome, reduce or eliminate identified problems and to strengthen marital bonds. Marriage counselors can be used alone by individuals, or, it can be accessed by couples. The broad term “marriage counseling” can be applied by a variety of approaches. It is very necessary to understand the type of counseling one is seeking, what different providers offer, what credentials and background they have, and to then match that information with what seems most fitting for personal and marital circumstances.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Is counseling for couples available for free?
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    Couples counseling can be free, depending on your location and what type of counseling you seek. Depending on what is available in your community, the quality of marital counseling services may vary; particularly in impoverished areas or where demand for low cost counseling services is high. This is why it is important to be selective, to search wisely, and see different counselors until you find one you like. When it comes to free services, it may be more challenging to find programs that meet your needs. Many free or low cost counseling services are offered through volunteer organizations. Couples that belong to a church or synagogue can request assistance through the church; usually the service is provided by the church’s minister or rabbi. Some churches that cannot accommodate an in-house service will actually provide a referral, and will actually foot the bill for your professional services. It is more difficult to attain services through a licensed therapist at a subsidized rate; mainly because it is difficult for non-profit agencies to keep professional therapists on staff. But if you are looking for a professional therapist, search the word “therapist’ or “psychologist” rather than ‘counselor’.Though many unlicensed counselors are good at what they do, the truth is that anyone can take on the title of counselor. Keep this in mind, and ask about each counselor’s background, education, and experience as you conduct your research.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Is relationship therapist as a career right for me?
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    A prospective therapist is someone that likes to help others, but they need much more than just a big heart. A therapist must exercise good judgment, and be able to set and maintain solid professional boundaries. He or she must also be open-minded, perceptive, and possess strong communication skills. He or she will also need to exhibit patience and self-control. Couples in conflict are often upset during counseling sessions; they may also argue, or make offensive comments or exhibit unpredictable behavior. A therapist in this field must be able to think on their feet, and respond appropriately and professionally, to any given situation. Time management, consistency and accountability are important traits, too; since you will have to establish trust with your clientele from the very beginning. On average, it takes seven years of post-secondary education to become a marriage and family therapist. Once graduate requirements are achieved, the incumbent will also need to apply for, and maintain, licensure.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Please help me in finding a marriage counselor.
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    You can find a marriage counselor by going online and running a search for “counselors in my area.” If you have medical insurance that covers mental health or counseling, you may need a referral from your primary care, but call around to some clinics and find out if any accept the plan you have. If you are not covered by insurance and are looking for something more affordable, call some non-profit clinics in your area. Don’t worry if none of them offer counseling – non-profit clinics employ caring staff, with accessible directories that can search for providers of almost any nature. Another option is to inquire of colleges in your area, those with graduate programs in counseling or psychology may offer free low-cost services.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    I need some help and advice that can save my marriage. Please help.
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    First, you cannot begin to resolve your conflicts without understanding what the problems are in the first place. Therefore, identifying what the problems are is the first step to figuring out the solution. Though your relational issues might seem complicated, there are really only a handful of general issues that cause marriages to fail. Communication problems, (such as lack of communication, ineffective communication, or verbal mistreatment), Personality differences (extreme difference of opinion or lacking in common goals and interests), trust issues (from past dishonesty or perceived dishonesty), are a few of the most common issues couples may face. Some activities or personality flaws may exacerbate existing problems, such as drug and alcohol abuse or infidelity. Some issues like negativity, taking one another for granted, or abusive patterns can be seen over the long term. The longer a couple waits to address problems, the larger the problems may grow. The best advice is to start with communication – find out what your partner feels at a time when they feel it is safe to talk honestly. Maintaining a calm demeanor and establishing trust is very important at this time. Seeking out a marriage counselor is a good idea; meanwhile, start doing your research on effective ncommunication, and do what you can on your own until counseling is available. If your partner is not receptive, it may time to reconsider whether you want to stay in the marriage, though many people choose to see a therapist on their own first.
  • PETTY34 answered a question on Sep 07, 2015
    Please tell me some of the books that can help me with marriage problems.
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    A couple of self-help reads include the classics Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, by John Gray, and The 5 Love Languages by Gary D. Chapman. These readings, like most of their kind, are focused on communication – that’s because communication problems are at the helm of most marital conflict; and, where other issues exist, positive communication can resolve them. Some other recommended titles include, How to Improve your Marriage without Talking about It by Dr. Pat Love and Dr. Steven Stosny; this book helps us to understand the ways in which gender differences contribute to marital disturbance, and Receiving Love by Harville Hendrix, PhD and Helen Lakelly Hunt, examines self-deprecation and discusses what personal issues may be blocking you from fully receiving love from your partner. There are hundreds of affordable self-help books available on Amazon.com; one should try using specific search terms if they are looking for literature that addresses a specific problem.
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