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  • N_marriage answered a question on Jan 05, 2015
    Tired of the constant blame
    Pray ? I believe in prayers too - but I would never impose my beliefs on others... praying to get clarity about something is a great idea, but we need to have the right wisdom to take proper actions that can solve our problems... He needs to understand that blaming won't do anyone any good. if your husband is concerned about your daughter, then the problem must be solved directly. find out what her real issues are, is she in bad company, what are some of the things that you as parents can do to help her out, offer emotional support to her well as to each other. if he is arguing with you all the time, then you need to clarify and tell him that it's spoiling things completely .....try going to a counselor as well....he may have his own concerns which he is not currently able to tell you...that is why that behavior.....
  • N_marriage answered a question on Jan 05, 2015
    Did my wife cheat?
    Why do you have such thoughts now? What has happened to raise this doubt ? did you catch her with someone ...something should have triggered this - if not, then this is just your imagination maybe. Share more details so readers can understand the situation better and offer answers accordingly...
  • N_marriage answered a question on Jan 05, 2015
    what do i do when my man videos other women?
    No, you should not, it is disrespectful to you as his wife. why does he do that. tell him that it is not acceptable - if he has some kind of an addiction or fixation for porn, then go to a therapist - that should help you both as a couple.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Jan 05, 2015
    Problem with husband
    There are a number of ways you both, as a couple, can improve on your sex lives. first speak to him about this and tell him that you are unhappy., that he makes no effort in spicing things up in the bedroom, or make you feel special. You too, can encourage him to try new things ...spend quality time with each other first , open your hearts out to one would make way for your intimate lives to becomes better than it ever was. Reading books on how to improve your sex lives, together as a couple, can also help
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 07, 2020
    after 15 years of marriage my wife has been having an affair. we have 2 kids, should i divorce?
    This must be devastating for you now, I;m sure. after so many years into the marriage, you fall in love with someone and give it your all. but when the love loses its fizz for whatever reason and one of the partners feels like moving on, it always makes sense to speak out and tell the spouse that this is the way they feel . that way there are changes to change or improve on the marriage, but being unfaithful is a totaaly different thing. Not supporting her or anything of that sort , but think of reasons why she chosse to do this. She didn’t feel heard in the marriage? She didn’t feel understood or cared for? She felt the heart connection was missing or losing that old touch? She lost herself in the marriage giving too much? She felt she had to do all the work - as a parent? Have an open conversation with her....reflect on this yourself for a while may fins some answers on your own... also find out where she stands now - does she want to give the marriage another chance, are you completely willing to do that as well? Have a mature talk with her....and only then decide what you must do... do consider that you have children as well - your decision will affect them as well....God bless you!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Nov 04, 2014
    Emotional affairs
    Dear Emotional, I can understand all you must be going through right now. I REALLY do. But the real question is not what happened, or what he did, or about that woman or how hurt you feel, the question really is do you still love him and want this marriage to work? I can sense that your answer is a yes which is why you are trying your best to resolve the matters. If that is the case, then you need to trust him again. And this is the hardest of all, because if you have ever been let down – and we all have – reconstructing the trust is difficult. This isn't about infidelity, but many small matters – broken promises, bad intentions, frustrated hopes. I know, and possibly your husband also understands this. If you love him, you have to trust him. Yes, you have to trust, even though you have no guarantee you won't be let down....If you want this to work you need to forget and forget again about any perceived hurts and mistreatment. Dragging the weight of the past behind you will drag you down in the end. Since your husband is accepting the truth and even assuring you of his feelings, then give him a chance.....just saying. You may just look back at this as a rough patch...which you both could overcome in your marriage. All the best :)
  • N_marriage answered a question on Nov 04, 2014
    i need help in my marriage
    Would be great if you could share more details here. What is the issue that you are facing problem with?
  • N_marriage answered a question on Oct 13, 2014
    How can I leave her?
    More than what your family likes or dislikes, it is you who needs to decide what needs to be done about this matter. Clearly, you have made up your mind. Please speak with her and explain that getting married won't be a good option for both of you in future. Try and explain yourself - that would help her understand your situation and perhaps let go. All the best!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Oct 09, 2014
    Should I stay or leave?
    You should not be afraid of taking a bold decision like divorce if you are thoroughly convinced that there is no scope for improvement in the marriage, Especially in the case of mental and physical torture, this one is a no-brainer. Please understand that no woman deserves a life where she is abused and not loved. Your comment that it is hard to take a step like this due to societal pressure is understandable. However, do remember that even in the most advanced western countries, it is not not easy for women to walk out on their marriages. But it has to be done since there is no other way out. You cannot continue to live and waste your entire life on a man who is not bothered about you. Please be convinced of this, Your life is way too precious and amazing,,.,,,,after this phase, you will understand that it was all for the best. Once you take a stand, then your parents also will surely support you in re-starting your life again. I wish you good luck! 
  • N_marriage answered a question on Oct 09, 2014
    How can I leave her?
    You are exactly the kind of man no woman in her right mind would ever want to be with. What kind of love is it that you have for her when you are not serious about committing to her at all? Why don't you want to marry her if you claim to 'love' her. And if you were not serious from the start, why didn't u communicate this to her well before getting physically involved with her? Do you even know how tough it is for a woman...Im not saying that is easy for a man, but it's definitely harder for women. Please reconsider your decision or attitude - you cant just give up a relationship and move on. If you still believe that you can't go through this (for whatever reason that you have not stated above) then tell her up front and break all ties. It will hurt her but in time even she will realize that it was good riddance - breaking up with you.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 29, 2014
    how can you communicate with someone who answers for you ?
    All the best and god bless you!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 26, 2014
    Is it rude to go to a wedding reception but not the ceremony?
    I think that should be fine. At least you made your presence at the wedding....perhaps if you are very close to the couple and they specifically requested you to be there, and you don't go, then they may perceive it as rude but not otherwise.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 26, 2014
    how can you communicate with someone who answers for you ?
    Well, I guess that someone needs a little help here. Presuming its your partner. Why don't you sit with your spouse and explain yourself when he / she is calm. It could also be that your spouse has anger issues - maybe consider could benefit greatly.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 22, 2014
    I love to a hindu girl. I am muslim.
    Then don't marry her. If there are so many problems already, after you marry her, there will be other major ones that will come up. I suggest you not to take this step..... End the relationship as soon as you can. All the best!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 16, 2014
    What is the secret of happy marriage?
    I think its communication, trust and respect for each other.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 03, 2014
    Husband is gross.
    Make him aware that you are not happy in the relationship.he may just get concerned and give up the bad habits and make more efforst for himself and the relationship. you could try going for counseling as well. It has worked wonders for couples facing such issues. From what you have written, it appears that your husband is very lazy. give him some motivation to work on his body, encourage him..... and give him some time, all men go through such phases - so u need to undertstand.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 03, 2014
    For the guys: Does marriage counselling really work?
    NO!! Please listen to your wife and go for counselling. You need to be a litte more open minded about it. It has worked for many - it can help you as well. Pls try at least!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 03, 2014
    My wife is very high maintenance. What should I do?
    Is she spending your money? If that is the case then you should speak up and tell her that she needs to curtail her expenses on redundant stuff. However if she is a working woman and spends her own money, then you should not have any problem with that.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 02, 2014
    Prostitutes over wife
    I think this a very serious issue. He has broken your trust and been unfaithful to you..... I know it is very difficult for you to understand why he would do're probably just too angry now. Give yourself some time, think through well and ask yourself if you really want to be with this person? Also is he sorry for his behaviour and is he trying to convince you that he won't do such a thing again? Ask yourself if you can trust him again.... If you feel there is no scope, then leaving him would probably be wise. However, if you still wish to be with him and think that he desrves another chance, then talk straight with him about this - tell him how much this has hurt you.... you can even visit a therapist and try to get an expert opinion on this - perhaps help your husband as well.... Good luck!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Sep 01, 2014
    My wife is overly critical and quick to anger. What to do?
    I have seen this problem occur many times. In my own family, I've observed this. When the wife is very dominating and has an anger issue, it's only natural for the husband to give it back. It's only understandable..... But it just leads to more confusion and fiascos in the house. I am not advising that you keep quiet and keep listening to your wife getting angry unnecessarliy but it's wise to stay quiet at times. Of course. she must also realise that her behaviour is not right and must be corrected. Pls spend time with her and do ur best to make her realise this.... take her to a councelor if needed. and at times be strict with her - she'll learn.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Aug 18, 2014
    My husband wants a divorce but I don't I really want to work things out. Now, he refuses to talk to me, what can I do?
    Be patient, give him time but make it clear that you want to discuss matters with him.
  • N_marriage answered a question on Aug 12, 2014
    How do I get my husband to love me again?
    I can understand what you must be going through now. Surely you never thought that a few arguments and differences could hamper your marriage of 3 years. But these things do happen. Most men have a tendency to give up - and sometimes for no reason at all. I have experienced this in my own life too. But before calling it quits, you need to sit with him again and explain that relationships don't just end like that. Tell him that you want to remedy things and that you don't wish to go back home. Really reflect on your own shortcomings as well and tell him that you are willing to work on yourself provided he is also willing to do the same. I hope things work out for you!
  • N_marriage answered a question on Aug 01, 2014
    My wife says I'm not romantic, and I don't understand her. She wants to leave me now.
    That's no reason. She can't be leaving you just cause your're not romantic. Going by that standard, all women would want to leave their husbands then... There's something she is hiding - you need to talk to her to find out the real reason.