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  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 16, 2015
    How does marriage counseling help christians who are trying to rekindle their marriage?
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    There are many forms of marriage counseling, and it really depends on the type you are seeking. I have a group program Relationship Rescue-911 For Love that is geared toward rekindling the romance (I even have a FB group called Rekindle the Romance) through re-building the foundation of a passionate, intimate, joyful, loving relationship. When you have that foundation of honesty, open, non-intrusive communication, and trust, the intimacy and passion are just a natural result! The program deals with needs, archetypes, passion patterns, master skills, disciplines, vulnerability, and a gamet of other helpful and useful tools, all with an underlying Christian faith and structure! I have seen the destruction a failed marriage can cause, and it is my mission, my passion in life to help people have amazing, joyful, intimate, passionate relationships that last a lifetime! If you are interested in more information, I would LOVE to share it with you, and you wouldnt have to wait very long--the program is starting up again in just a few days, so the timing is perfect!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 16, 2015
    Marriage counseling did nothing for me. Does it really work? Should I try again?
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    Did you go into the counseling with specific goals in mind? Were you going because there are issues in your marriage or did you go because you wanted to deepen your relationship? I work with couples in a program called Relationship Rescue-911 For Love and we go through 12 calls, articles, exercises, quizzes, evaluations, and homework assignments that hit about every aspect of a relationship, and the cool thing is, the principles in this program not only apply to a romantic relationship, but many of them apply to that of a parent/child, sibling, co-worker, boss, and even friend relationship, so you are learning valuable tools to help you succeed in every area of your life! If you are interested in the program, we are getting ready to start in just a few days, so let me know and i can send you the information so you can get signed up!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 16, 2015
    Are there any exercises on conflict resolution for couples?
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    ABSOLUTELY! I work with couples all of the time and one of the main items we have to work on is how to "fight" (argue, disagree) and when couples can learn this along with some other fundamental principles, you can enter into a fight/argument/altercation/disagreement and know that things are going to get worked out, and that you will be a stronger couple because of it!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 06, 2015
    My partner and I are newlyweds and looking for some christian marriage advice. Need tips.
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    Get into a marriage program such as Relationship Rescue - 911 For Love. Learn communication fundamentals and the art of successful arguing, fulfilling each others needs, disciplines in love, and many other extremely helpful topics and tricks for a healthy, happy, joyful marriage.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Nov 18, 2015
    I am looking for affordable marriage counseling. Need references.
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    I have a group program that is starting in just a couple of weeks, and it will, by far, be the most affordable option for many couples that are struggling!! You can be completely anonymous or you can join by video and meet the other participants, it is completely up to you and your comfort level. It will be 12 calls, one call every two weeks, there will be articles, quizzes, evaluations, and exercises so you can really get the information into your body, and of course, discussions and q and a so people can ask pertinent questions to their situation and get help not only from me, but also feedback from the group! It is going to be fun, informative, and very affordable ...you can watch a 45 minute video talking about some of the concepts we will discuss here https://www.crowdcast.io/e/love4unow2 and then when you are ready to join, go to Relationship Rescue-911 For Love for a very affordable 6 payment plan OR Relationship Rescue-911 For Love Discount Price for a paid in full discount price! I truly care about every single couple that I work with, and I care about YOU! I want you to live a life filled with gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 02, 2015
    Should I look for a marriage counseling retreat?
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    Yes, it absolutely is! When you start working on yourself, the light, the joy, the passion will naturally flow out of you to your partner, and he/she will begin to notice this change and want to give more to you. It can take some time, but it can happen. The other way is of course, to take a one day intensive or for the full monty, a full weekend intensive where you really kick start the relationship and reset it to the day you got married! These intensives can be absolutely life changing when done in the spirit of love and joy. For more information about intensives, feel free to reach out to me! Also, you can read my article on here, "when is it Time to Call it Quits? I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 02, 2015
    What is marriage restoration? Is it possible to restore my marriage?
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    Yes, it absolutely is! When you start working on yourself, the light, the joy, the passion will naturally flow out of you to your partner, and he/she will begin to notice this change and want to give more to you. It can take some time, but it can happen. The other way is of course, to take a one day intensive or for the full monty, a full weekend intensive where you really kick start the relationship and reset it to the day you got married! These intensives can be absolutely life changing when done in the spirit of love and joy. For more information, you can read my article on here, "when is it Time to Call it Quits? I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    I am looking for a marriage pyschologist that can help me in coping with stress. Please help.
    What exactly are you stressing about? What are you doing now to try to cope with it? I am a Relationship Expert specializing in Strategic Intervention. This means I come in, identify the issues, we break those patterns causing the issues, and rebuild some new coping mechanisms that empower you to live a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion in every aspect of your life!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How do I get out of an abusive marriage?
    how long have you been in the relationship? How long has it been abusive? What exactly does that mean? Verbal, emotional, physical? Chances are, if things were good in the beginning, that there are some underlying issues that, once dealt with, the relationship can be stronger and better than ever before. Have you ever broken a bone? Medical science has proven that the bone is stronger in the place of the break after it heals than it was before the break. A relationship can be the same way-once the issues are dealt with and a new foundation is built, the passion, trust, intimacy, and love increase! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How to get out of an emotionally abusive relationship?
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    Gianna, how long have you been in the relationship? How long has it been emotionally abusive? What exactly does that mean? Chances are, if things were good in the beginning, that there are some underlying issues that, once dealt with, the relationship can be stronger and better than ever before. Have you ever broken a bone? Medical science has proven that the bone is stronger in the place of the break after it heals than it was before the break. A relationship can be the same way-once the issues are dealt with and a new foundation is built, the passion, trust, intimacy, and love increase! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How to move out of a relationship when I am unhappy in marriage?
    Why are you unhappy? The problem with moving out of the relationship is you take you with you. If you are unhappy, chances are, there are underlying issues that are not going to go away by divorcing. I work with couples all of the time that tell me they just aren't happy anymore, and every single time we work on the underlying issues, bring back the love and passion, and they are happier than they ever were before! If this sounds good to you, I would be happy to have a conversation to discuss this further.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How does family counseling work for problems arising in marriage?
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    What exactly are the issues that are affecting your marriage? Is there a step child or children that is bringing some distress to the relationship? Perhaps the in-laws? Maybe infidelity or trust issues?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    Does marriage counseling work for couples?
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    There are many types of counseling, therapy, etc that one can look at with regard to help in their marriage. I am a Relationship Expert and in my consulting with couples, I use a modality that allows us to find the root of the issues, break the patterns, and build a new stronger foundation for the couple to build a beautiful, loving, intimate, passionate relationship. This is done in a matter of a few hours to possibly a few weeks (if the weekly phone calls are chosen over a live in person session). I would be more than happy to discuss this further, if you are interested.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How much does marriage counseling cost?
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    Reynold, as with any type of education, the benefits can far outweigh the cost. You need to ask yourself what is the breakdown in my marriage costing me? Am I losing focus at work? With my children and family? Am I neglecting myself or others? Am I contributing to my community and family the way I would like? When a marriage is under stress, it affects every aspect of life, not just the relationship between spouses, and the sooner you get help, the better. Marriage counseling can be very expensive and can take weeks, months, even years to get to the root of the issues and deal with them. I am a Relationship Expert specializing in Strategic Intervention, and as such, I work much faster than traditional marriage counseling or therapy. I would be happy to have a brief conversation with you if you would like to get more information on how it works! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How often does marriage counseling work?
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    The first question I always ask couples or even one partner when they come to me is what is the issue that is leading you to seek help? I am a Relationship Expert and in my consulting, I get to the root of any issues through techniques in Strategic Intervention. Instead of spending weeks or months talking about issues from the past or even current issues, we, in a short 2 hour session, get to the root of the issues, break the patterns, and build new bridges for the couple to enjoy their marital life together including trust, intimacy, passion, and increased love and understanding. I would love to have a conversation with you about this strategy, if you would like.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    Is marriage coaching and marriage counseling different?
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    It depends on who you ask. I am a Relationship Expert specializing in Strategic Intervention. What this means is, I come in and help couples fix the issue at hand immediately, then we can work on some solid maintenance and growth aspects so that the couple can move toward increased intimacy, passion, and trust! Are you interested in having a conversation to learn more?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    What is marriage coaching?
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    Well, I am a Relationship Expert and what I do in my Consulting and Coaching is bring the couple together to help them build a strong foundation of trust, intimacy, and love so that they can overcome any obstacle that comes along and be stronger in their marital bond for having gone through it. There are a number of different types of programs ranging from monthly calls for maintenance all the way up to a weekend intensive that, over the course of 50 hours, we work on every single aspect of life, not just the romantic aspect so that you can be better equipped to deal with life issues as they come up. Are you looking to get started with a consultant?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    I am a Christian looking for advice on newlyweds. Please suggest.
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    What exactly are you looking for advice about?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    What couples should do to cope with infedility in marriage?
    Grace3, I work with couples all of the time that are looking to overcome infidelity, trust issues, and even worse issues. What exactly are the circumstances of the infidelity, and what are you doing to mend the situation right now? If you would be more comfortable talking with me directly, I can give you my contact info or you can find it in my article "When is it time to call it quits?"
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    I need some help and advice that can save my marriage. Please help.
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    What is wrong in your marriage?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    My marriage is in trouble and I am determined to save it. Need some advice.
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    How is it in trouble?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    I am having trouble with my in-laws, need some advice on how to make peace with them.
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    What exactly are the issues? Give me an example, please.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    How to get a divorce when you are not happy in marriage?
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    What is causing you to contemplate the awful, painful, destructive road of divorce and how can I help?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 21, 2015
    There are many questions about divorce going in my mind. Looking for a solution.
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    Why are you contemplating divorce? How can I help you avoid the awful, painful, destructive process?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 09, 2015
    Looking for an affordable marriage counseling agency. Please suggest.
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    What are your expectations from counseling, and what is affordable for you? I ask because there are many differences between a traditional counselor or therapist and someone that does strategic intervention where in just a weekend, the entire relationship can be transformed, and obviously the price will reflect that. The thing to remember is that if things get better in a weekend, then every other aspect in life will begin to improve immediately, as well! So again, what are your expectations and what is affordable to you? I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 05, 2015
    Should i Forgive Again?
    Absolutely! I have done it time and again! I am not saying it is easy but it is simple! I do weekend intensives where we really delve into every aspect of the marriage and life-physical, emotional, spiritual, financial, and relational. The life partner we choose is supposed to be for life, as well. It really is no different. It is only different in your mind. You are feeling insignificant and uncertain about so many things, and this is a very difficult and trying time for you. The Bible says to forgive 70 times 7, and this is what we all need to practice. I am in no way saying what he did was excusable, it was not, but what I am saying is that when we realize none of us are perfect, and while we might not commit the same sins, we do all sin, then we can get out of our own way and learn to love with heartfelt understanding. When I work with a couple such as you, I do the bulk of the work with the offending spouse...obviously he had some real issues that drove him to infidelity and that needs worked on first and foremost. He obviously wasnt always like that, so we just need to get him back to where he was when you two fell madly in love, and do a relationship reset. The weekend intensives are truly an amazing way to reset any relationship, no matter what the issues are, and though they are emotional, they are much less emotional than separation and divorce, and I promise the outcome is much happier! I can tell you are a loving woman and are just feeling so lost, hurt, and betrayed, and my wish for you is the peace, joy, and understanding that you deserve!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Aug 04, 2015
    Should i Forgive Again?
    Lesterwife, would you ever contemplate giving up on your daughter if she did something that caused you to question your trust in her? Would you just walk away from your child? I ask you to remember when you took those vows...it is for better or for worse...it is no matter what...my advice to you is to reach out to someone like myself-a Strategic Interventionist -who can, in a matter of a weekend, take you from where you are to happily, blissfully, joyfullt married and trusting 100% again! What I do is not therapy but rather an almost immediate shift in the relationship to get you back on track! You saw something incredible in this man, and you were right! You deserve a passionate, wonderful, loving relationship! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Does asking marriage counseling questions help?
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    Yes they can...you need to have some real open communication before you consider getting married, and if it is too late for that, then you need to learn how to discuss issues now...there is no such thing as too late....what exactly are you struggling with in your relationship? I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Can you help me save my marriage from everyday issues?
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    What do you mean by everyday issues? I can definitely help, but need more information! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Please tell me some effective ways to save a marriage?
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    It totally depends on what the issues are...I work with couples every single day and the problems run the gammut...if you want to take this off this venue, feel free to request my email address and I can help you there. I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    How to get meaningful advice about relationsips?
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    I am here to help...what exactly are the issues you are facing in what relationship? Is it with children, spouse, employer, whom? I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Problems in relationship are common. But how to deal with them?
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    Open honest communication about the issues, how they are making each partner feel, and approaching the solutions from a heartfelt understanding is paramount. A good relationship consultant can help you learn to really effectively communicate not only with your spouse or significant other, but also with children, siblings, parents, employers, employees, and everyone else in your life! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    I need some effective relationship advice. Please help.
    What exactly are the issues you are facing in your relationship? There is all kinds of help and advice that I could throw your way, but if I know what the issues are, I can target my response to help you in the areas you have challenges. I work with couples every day, sometimes only one of the partners, sometimes both partners, and I know I can help you, too!! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 14, 2020
    How can I save my marriage in less time?
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    Discuss the issues, get to the real heart of the challenges, and fix them and then build upon that solid foundation for a wonderful, joyful, passionate relationship ! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion! <3
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    How to seek a reliable family and marriage therapist?
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    It really depends on your goals--I work in tandem with many MFT's because sometimes there are urgent issues that need fixed immediately and that is what I specialize in, and other times there are underlying severe issues that require more involvement with other professionals. I am a Strategic Interventionist and I help couples that are on the verge of divorce or separation who are dealing with issues such as infidelity, death of a child, trust issues, anger and abuse issues, and a plethora of other issues. The best way to choose what modality will work best for you is simply by having a conversation. I would be more than happy to talk with you about what your issues are, whether I can help or not, and if I can't or don't feel we are a good match, I have a number of MFT's and other professionals that I can refer you to that will be able to help! :D I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Does couples counseling work for them?
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    I work with couples every day and I can tell you that I have 100% satisfaction record and have not lost anyone! I practice Strategic Intervention, so we come in, fix the problems, and give you the tools and tips to live a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion within a few hours to maybe a few weeks depending on which program you choose,so that you can get the help you need in the time that works best for you!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    Does saving your marriage after cheating is possible?
    Yes it is absolutely possible!! I have many tips and tools that can save any marriage in any shape and after any tragedy, even infidelity! I would be happy to have a conversation with you so I can get the important details and then we could strategize a plan to save your marriage! It is possible to have a happy, joyfilled, passionate relationship and you deserve that!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 30, 2015
    What questions should I ask before marriage?
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    If you are asking these questions, it sounds to me like maybe you do have some doubts.  It might be very helpful for both you and your fiance to talk with someone like myself to go through the things that new lovers dont often think about, but come up later in life and then they are ill prepared.  I would be more than happy to have a conversation with you via telephone, Skype, Facetime, etc so we can nail down some of these issues before they become issues.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 10, 2015
    How can I restore the love back in my marriage?
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    brokenannie, my heart hurts for you! Your marriage is so new, (yes, I said new, as this is part of your mindset change) and for you to feel so lost is truly heartbreaking. The first thing that you need to do is clear your mind of any thoughts of divorce, hurt, betrayal, or any other negative word, thought, or emotion. Sitting (or standing) in a quiet space, I want you to close your eyes and think back to the day and time your husband proposed to you....really get in touch with the memory...smell the smells that you were smelling at that moment, see what you were seeing, feel what you were feeling...what was he wearing? How did you have your hair done? Remember every single detail and REALLY feel the feelings ....continue in this exercise for at least 4 minutes....remembering every word that led up to him proposing, what your answer was, how did you answer? What did he do when you answered? What did it feel like when he put that ring on your finger (if he had a ring)...take in every single sensation....now think about your husband right now...the way you want to wrap your arms around him, laugh with him, love him, and never let him go! This exercise is SOOOOO effective live, but I think if you REALLY put yourself into it, you can do it all on your own. If not, I would be more than happy to guide you through this and other exercises that will help you bring back the love, passion, and intimacy that your marriage had just six short years ago! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 10, 2015
    How do I find the love of my life?
    Loveless, in order to be ready and accepting of the love of your life, there are a few "housekeeping" items you will benefit from doing and they really aren't complicated, but they can be difficult. As we age and experience life, there are ups, downs, turmoil, love, rejection, inclusion, joy, hurt, sorrow, laughter, surprise, and the list goes on and on, and what we lose sight of as we age, is that these experiences cause us to make certain decisions in our life. It is these very decisions that can inhibit the love we crave from coming into our life. I work with people looking to enter a committed relationship on various aspects, and one of those is these decisions from our past. It is a simple process, but not always easy, and absolutely ALWAYS worth it! I would love to work with you, so reach out to me by email and we can get started manifesting the love of your life! I wish for you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 02, 2015
    What preparations should I do before marriage?
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    Okay, first of all, thank you so much for sharing, I know how bringing all of this to light can make a woman feel. It truly sounds to me like you want your marriage to work...you have a beautiful child together, and you can have an amazing life...we just need to get you past this rough spot. As for the other woman knowing the intimate details, or what she knows for sure, you don't know, and even if you did, it really wouldn't make you feel any better. The fact is, he felt more at ease talking to her about it than you, and while that might hurt, if you could find it inside yourself to love him unconditionally and to be happy that he is at least able to talk about it with someone, that is a start. As for him sharing the details with you, I have no doubts that after a few sessions together, he would WANT to share with you because the two of you would regain the intimacy you once had, and it would be at even higher levels after surviving and thriving following infidelity. I just don't want you to give up without giving 1000% not of what you THINK he needs but what he TRULY needs. The one thing I see in couples over and over again is their RULES for love...that is not supposed to be how it is...just as we would NEVER stop loving our child no matter what they do, we are never to stop loving our mate/spouse/partner for what they do or do not do. The reason you feel betrayed is because of the meaning you are giving things, and while it is understandable, it doesn't serve anyone. By shifting the meaning, we could shift you back into love, passion, and intimacy, I have ZERO doubt! I would love the opportunity to work with the two of you, if you are open to that. It can all be done via Skype or Facetime, so no matter where he is, no matter where you are, we could work on putting this wonderful little family back together again!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 02, 2015
    My husband cheated on me.
    I can see where you feel betrayed and hurt. What exactly did he do? You say an emotional affair, and those can be difficult, but when we really get down to the facts, I would bet that you were not feeling fulfilled by him, and he was not feeling fulfilled by you. This is such a sad place to be, as it can all be avoided if the couple has the tools and knowledge to prevent it, but unfortunately it is not something taught to people before they enter a relationship or marriage. The good news is, it truly can all be turned around and you can live a life filled with passion, love, trust, and intimacy. If we were working together, i would walk you through an exercise where we find out what your top needs are, and how they have been met ( and the deficiencies) and what his needs are and where they have not been met and how to turn it all around. I know at times it seems hopeless, but it truly isn't. Even if you find that you cannot trust him, at least after everything we do, you will know what you need to move on and into a relationship where these issues won't ever hurt you again, and you can live a life full of gratitude, abundance, and passion!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 02, 2015
    How to increase love in a marriage?
    lovekara, I honor you for wanting to bring more love and passion into your marriage! There are so many different ways one can do this...you might want to start with what I call a "State of the Union" meeting...it can be a date night or even just the two of you over pizza at home...the goal is to have these "meetings" once a week, or ever two weeks at the longest, and you honestly and openly discuss any issues that either of you thinks need discussing, and then you also set goals for the relationship such as planning get aways or the holiday plans or perhaps you have been wanting to join a gym and need to get that set in stone or joining a non-profit group together so you can experience some growth and contribution outside of yourselves. These are all excellent ways to increase intimacy which will bring more love and passion into the relationship!! I would also HIGHLY recommend Gary Chapman's books...Four Seasons of Marriage AND the Five Love Languages...in the Love Languages book, you both take a little quiz that guides you to learning each other's love language...in other words, how does your partner like to receive love? Are they tactile and physical or are they more verbal or perhaps they like the acts of service such as washing their car or running errands that they need to do or perhaps they are visual and they like little love notes or gifts...knowing how your PARTNER likes to receive love will give you lots of insight into areas that might be murky right now. I wish you a life filled with Gratitude, Abundance, and Passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 02, 2015
    My husband cheated on me.
    nnnn and Lesterwife, it truly is possible to forgive someone completely and to trust them again. It is all in YOUR blueprint of the world. When you were cheated on, (and YES, I have been cheated on and completely forgave him after going through the process I now use to help others) he was trying to meet his six human needs without regard as to the ramifications of your feelings. When he did this, it broke a bond between the two of you. The beautiful thing is, just like a broken bone, when it heals it becomes even stronger, and your relationship can too. You know there is a saying, "Not forgiving another person is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die" . If you really think about this, you can see how much truth there is in that statement. By not forgiving and wallowing in it, you are hurting yourself. You are denying yourself your true self and your need for Love. When you truly forgive and work together to mend the marriage, you will rise out of the ashes a stronger, more grounded, more loving, and more intimate couple because you will have really taken the time to do the work that will bring your true selves back together. As I said, I work with people all the time in bringing back the love and intimacy and passion into their relationships, and while it might not be easy, it is so worth it. I truly hope you find the peace inside yourself that allows you to forgive and to move on in gratitude, abundance, and passion.
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jul 02, 2015
    What preparations should I do before marriage?
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    What is making you say this? I want to help people, and that includes you. If you take the first step and reach out to me, I can help you with whatever you are trying to deal with and help you live with more gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 23, 2015
    How can I forgive my spouse for infidelity?
    Katherine, I feel so badly that you are going through this challenge in your marriage. I can tell you that I have been exactly where you are, and that actually led me to my purpose in life...I am a Relationship Consultant and as such, I help couples get past infidelity, death of a child, loss of job, extreme sickness, etc and create a marriage full of love, passion, trust, and intimacy! It truly can happen, and we can start working toward that immediately! It might happen rather quickly, and it might take a few months, but we can do it! I work with just one partner, or both, or each partner seperately. If you are interested in having an initial consultation, I would be happy to schedule that with you, as well! I truly am here to help people, and I would love to help you!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 23, 2015
    How can I save my marriage after a separation?
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    rita, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I can tell you that I work with couples and one partner all the time. If one partner wants to and is willing to work, the marriage can be saved. The trick is to get back to when you first fell in love with each other. Through a series of sessions, either alone or with your partner, we could work on exactly how to re-ignite the spark and to bring back the passion and intimacy that you had at the beginning. I would say that the sooner you begin the work, the better, as the longer you are apart, the easier it will be to forget the love and passion you had in the beginning. I have a 90 day challenge that I give to the couples I work with, where they do EXACTLY what I suggest for a minimum of 90 days, and if after that, they still think they should divorce, then at least they will know they gave 100% of what the partner needed, not just what you thought he needed. I work with couples all over the world, and I can tell you that as long as YOU want to save the relationship and give it 100%, the other person will feel your love and you have a very good chance of saving the relationship, and if you give 100% and it still falls apart, then at least you will know that you have given EVERYTHING HE NEEDED (NOT what you had to give). I would HIGHLY recommend Gary Chapman's books...Four Seasons of Marriage AND the Five Love Languages...in the Love Languages book, you both take a little quiz that guides you to learning each other's love language...in other words, how does your partner like to receive love? Are they tactile and physical or are they more verbal or perhaps they like the acts of service such as washing their car or running errands that they need to do or perhaps they are visual and they like little love notes or gifts...knowing how your PARTNER likes to receive love will give you lots of insight into areas that might be murky right now...I hear from people all the time that say, "I have given all that I have, I can't do any more" and just by helping them realize that they have been giving in a way that THEY would like to receive, but wasn't necessarily warmly received and therefore not as effective, we can re-shift their thinking and their approach and turn things around!! With every couple that comes to me, they always present with a problem or an issue they want to deal with, and after just a session or sometimes two, we find the deeper, more impactful issue that really needs dealt with, and then we can build an amazing relationship for them and their entire world! When our intimate relationship isn't all that we want or need it to be, it can adversely affect all areas of our life, from work, to family, to finances, to spirituality, to health, to our emotional wellbeing. You can save your marriage, and it will be well worth the time and energy you invest if you are committed! I have never had a couple divorce after this challenge, because they learn/re-learn how to love. :-) I wish you all the best, and if you would like to work with me, I would be happy to schedule an initial consultation! Take care and God bless!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 23, 2015
    What can I do to save my marriage and prevent divorce?
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    coralin$, I absolutely disagree about both parties needing or wanting the marriage to work. I have worked with a number of people where they were the only one wanting to work on the marriage, and within a very short amount of time (sometimes even 48 hours!) they were able to turn things around. If both people are wanting to work on it, yes of course it would make it easier. There is quite a bit that you can do on your own, also. I would say that you need to get back to a point of when you first fell in love and got married. There is a level of relationship where you fully give love to your partner without regard to reciprocation, for the pure joy of giving them love. If you 100% commit to following prescribed steps, I can guarantee you will know without a doubt, you gave everything HE needed, not just what you thought he needed or wanted. Jane.s I work with couples all over the world, and I can tell you that as long as YOU want to save the relationship and give it 100%, the other person will feel your love and you have a very good chance of saving the relationship, and if you give 100% and it still falls apart, then at least you will know that you have given EVERYTHING HE NEEDED (NOT what you had to give). I would HIGHLY recommend Gary Chapman's books...Four Seasons of Marriage AND the Five Love Languages...in the Love Languages book, you both take a little quiz that guides you to learning each other's love language...in other words, how does your partner like to receive love? Are they tactile and physical or are they more verbal or perhaps they like the acts of service such as washing their car or running errands that they need to do or perhaps they are visual and they like little love notes or gifts...knowing how your PARTNER likes to receive love will give you lots of insight into areas that might be murky right now...I hear from people all the time that say, "I have given all that I have, I can't do any more" and just by helping them realize that they have been giving in a way that THEY would like to receive, but wasn't necessarily warmly received and therefore not as effective, we can re-shift their thinking and their approach and turn things around!! With every couple that comes to me, they always present with a problem or an issue they want to deal with, and after just a session or sometimes two, we find the deeper, more impactful issue that really needs dealt with, and then we can build an amazing relationship for them and their entire world! When our intimate relationship isn't all that we want or need it to be, it can adversely affect all areas of our life, from work, to family, to finances, to spirituality, to health, to our emotional wellbeing. You can save your marriage, and it will be well worth the time and energy you invest if you are committed! I would love to work with you, if you are interested, whether it would just be you or if there is a chance that both of you would want to work together, it really can be spectacular and bring a whole new level of intimacy to your relationship!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 08, 2020
    please what do i have to know before marriage? and please what should i ask before marriage
    110 Views
    There are so many conversations that you need to have before contemplating marriage in our western society. Children-are you going to have any, if so, how will they be raised, disciplined, educated? Finances-will you both work, share bank accounts or seperate? Family-how much or little will they be invited into your daily affairs? Will you discuss issues with family and friends or is that uncomfortable for either partner? I would also pose these topics of conversation to you as they will prepare you for those little "curve balls" as we call them...the things life throws at us when we least expect it.... 1. How and when will you argue? Will you have these exchanges as soon as the issue presents itself or will you schedule it for a later time when both partners have had time to process and calm? 2. Will you use past behaviors in your discussions? 3. Do you have a SAFE word? A word used by either partner to signal that things are getting too heated and you need to take a break before one of you says or does something they will regret? 4. What will your day to day schedule look like and what household/family chores and errands will each partner be responsible for completing? What about your time together? 5. Will you have date nights or perhaps time where you volunteer together for a non-profit you both enjoy? What about your individual creative outlets? Will you share those or will they be reserved only for your time alone? 6. What is the way your partner most likes to receive love? Are they tactile and love to be touched, kissed, hugged, made love to, or are they visual and they like texts, notes, or gifts that you send or give unexpectedly? I wish for you a life full of gratitude, abundance, and passion! <3
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 19, 2015
    What advise can you give on marital separation?
    167 Views
    Sherman.p can you give me some more information? How long have you been married? How long have you been separated? What were the reasons for the separation? Where is your partner now? I think by the sound of your question, your partner initiated the talk about or the actual act of separation. What were the reasons given for the separation? If we start with this information, we can begin to help you get where you need and want to be! Find your inner strength, and love yourself! I look forward to your answers and to helping you! I want you to live a life of gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 19, 2015
    How do I find the love of my life?
    loveless, I understand your frustration and I am so glad that you reached out! First, I honor you for reaching out. It shows that you are truly ready to make the changes necessary to get what it is you seek in your life! I would love to offer some action items for you to start readying you for the love of your life to walk into your life! I work with singles who want to be in a couple, couples that want more out of their relationship, and couples who are on the brink of destruction bring their relationship back to better than when they first met! You are meant to spend your life with the love of your life-the one you cant wait to see when you open your eyes, and the one you want to see last when closing your eyes at night. The breath in your lungs, and the joy in your heart. You deserve all of this and you can have it!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 19, 2015
    How can I save my marriage?
    205 Views
    Jane.s I work with couples all over the world, and I can tell you that as long as YOU want to save the relationship and give it 100%, the other person will feel your love and you have a very good chance of saving the relationship, and if you give 100% and it still falls apart, then at least you will know that you have given EVERYTHING HE NEEDED (NOT what you had to give). I would HIGHLY recommend Gary Chapman's books...Four Seasons of Marriage AND the Five Love Languages...in the Love Languages book, you both take a little quiz that guides you to learning each other's love language...in other words, how does your partner like to receive love? Are they tactile and physical or are they more verbal or perhaps they like the acts of service such as washing their car or running errands that they need to do or perhaps they are visual and they like little love notes or gifts...knowing how your PARTNER likes to receive love will give you lots of insight into areas that might be murky right now...I hear from people all the time that say, "I have given all that I have, I can't do any more" and just by helping them realize that they have been giving in a way that THEY would like to receive, but wasn't necessarily warmly received and therefore not as effective, we can re-shift their thinking and their approach and turn things around!! With every couple that comes to me, they always present with a problem or an issue they want to deal with, and after just a session or sometimes two, we find the deeper, more impactful issue that really needs dealt with, and then we can build an amazing relationship for them and their entire world! When our intimate relationship isn't all that we want or need it to be, it can adversely affect all areas of our life, from work, to family, to finances, to spirituality, to health, to our emotional wellbeing. You can save your marriage, and it will be well worth the time and energy you invest if you are committed!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 18, 2015
    Relationship advice how to forgive
    136 Views
    james001, I am so sorry to read that you are going through such a tough time. I would love to offer some words of encouragement and assistance if you are still struggling with this or any other issue. Everything can be rectified, we just need to get you both back to where you were when you first fell in love, and that can absolutely happen! Let me know where things are now, and I would be happy to help! I wish for you a life full of gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 07, 2020
    How to ask for relationship advice
    88 Views
    When dealing with issues with our intimate partner and family members, the number one thing you have to remember is honoring your partner. If she is uncomfortable discussing intimate family issues with extended family or friends, then you need to honor that. It is so much more than her being right or you being right. It is about the respect of the feelings of one another and unconditionally loving that person. Try to come from a place of heartfelt understanding...not just trying to understand why she feels that way, but really and truly feeling what she is feeling and why she is feeling this way. Perhaps by having this deeply intimate conversation you might even uncover why she feels this way and she could then possibly realize that it was unnecessary to feel that way or maybe not, the goal is just to honor her and her feelings and not doing anything to betray that trust, no matter what. As for the issue with the daughter, the two of you should sit down with the daughter , explain the "rules of engagement" for this conversation, and those being no attacking or abusive language, no use of blame, only laying out the facts of what has happened, what was said, how it made each party feel, how it was meant to be taken, and how you can all move on from this stronger and closer than ever. If you could do this, I am sure you will emerge a happier, healthier couple and family. I hope this reaches you if not in time to deal with this issue, then perhaps the next... I wish for you a life full of gratitude, abundance, and passion! <3
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 18, 2015
    What preparations should I do before marriage?
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    Shamishta, your culture, as you know, has lots of customs that I am sure you want to follow, so please make sure you consult with your religious guides to get their guidance. Also, Andrea brings up many good talking points...all of these issues are important in a marriage, and if not discussed beforehand, they are potential roadblocks that could easily have been avoided. Along with the topics for discussion that Andrea poses, I would also pose these to you as they will prepare you for those little "curve balls" as we call them...the things life throws at us when we least expect it.... 1. How and when will you argue? Will you have these exchanges as soon as the issue presents itself or will you schedule it for a later time when both partners have had time to process and calm? 2. Will you use past behaviors in your discussions? 3. Do you have a SAFE word? A word used by either partner to signal that things are getting too heated and you need to take a break before one of you says or does something they will regret? 4. What will your day to day schedule look like and what household/family chores and errands will each partner be responsible for completing? What about your time together? 5. Will you have date nights or perhaps time where you volunteer together for a non-profit you both enjoy? What about your individual creative outlets? Will you share those or will they be reserved only for your time alone? 6. What is the way your partner most likes to receive love? Are they tactile and love to be touched, kissed, hugged, made love to, or are they visual and they like texts, notes, or gifts that you send or give unexpectedly? Are perhaps they like "acts of service"-washing their car, changing the oil, filling the gas tank, running errands they need to run, etc or perhaps they are auditory and they need to hear they are doing a good job or that you love them and this could be with phone calls, voice notes, or whispers in their ear... by knowing how your partner likes to receive love, it will make it easy for you to know they always know you love them. There is a wonderful book by Gary Chapman called the Five Love Languages and in that book there are quizzes for both men and women and at the end you will know your partner's love language, and you can then learn to "speak" it frequently and fluently!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 08, 2020
    What are some common pre-marriage counseling questions?
    121 Views
    Dorothy, these are a few questions for discussion that I bring up with my couples: 1. How and when will you argue? Will you have these exchanges as soon as the issue presents itself or will you schedule it for a later time when both partners have had time to process and calm? 2. Will you use past behaviors in your discussions? 3. Do you have a SAFE word? A word used by either partner to signal that things are getting too heated and you need to take a break before one of you says or does something they will regret? 4. What will your day to day schedule look like and what household/family chores and errands will each partner be responsible for completing? What about your time together? 5. Will you have date nights or perhaps time where you volunteer together for a non-profit you both enjoy? What about your individual creative outlets? Will you share those or will they be reserved only for your time alone? 6. What is the way your partner most likes to receive love? Are they tactile and love to be touched, kissed, hugged, made love to, or are they visual and they like texts, notes, or gifts that you send or give unexpectedly? Are perhaps they like "acts of service"-washing their car, changing the oil, filling the gas tank, running errands they need to run, etc or perhaps they are auditory and they need to hear they are doing a good job or that you love them and this could be with phone calls, voice notes, or whispers in their ear... by knowing how your partner likes to receive love, it will make it easy for you to know they always know you love them. Obviously there are all of the typical issues such as religion, children, discipline, vacations, extended family, boundaries, etc etc that also need to be discussed, and I hope these questions help you open the gates to some very deep, thought provoking conversations that will only increase the intimacy in your relationship. 
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 18, 2015
    What questions should I ask before marriage?
    331 Views
    You are absolutely right, andrea. We can only plan for what we know, and the rest we have to just prepare for as best we can. I have often said that the quality of our lives is in direct proportion to the amount of uncertainty we can comfortably live with, and I try to prepare all of my clients for exactly this. Reminding them and arming them with tips, tools, and strategies to keep them ever aware that the partners are on the SAME side, no matter what, that when issues do come up, each of them should only be focused on what is best for the union. They are not coming from a place of selfishness, but rather selflessness and that the best outcome for the BOTH of them is what they should strive to attain. When life does throw us those nasty curve balls, and it does, over and over again, the only thing we can control is the way in which we interpret those curve balls. We can see it for what it is, and deal with it instead of making it much more than it is, and thereby causing much more unnecessary pain. In my work with clients, I help them to re-frame and see that even a seemingly horrendous event or curve ball had some amazing qualities and impact on their lives, and when they really get this, they are immediately standing taller, breathing deeper, and smiling from ear to ear, and in most cases, crying because of the profound impact it can make. It is probably the most rewarding part of my work! There is another tool that I will share here...I encourage all of my couples to schedule what I call "state of the union" meetings. This is a time when the partners get together, whether at home over meatloaf or at a romantic restaurant, and they discuss any issues that have come up since the last meeting. They also discuss what they love in their relationship and how to expand upon those things, as well. It should be a very neutral, non-threatening discussion where you can exchange thoughts and feelings (in a non-attack manner) with one another and gain even more intimacy! You are a very intelligent and wise one, andrea, and this forum is lucky to have you here!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    How do I avoid being clingy?
    100 Views
    frustratedwife, I only recently found this website, and I know your question is a bit old, but I would LOVE to offer a compassionate ear! I understand your need for closeness with your husband, and I think that I could help you both build an amazing relationship in which you both feel totally fulfilled and completely loved and one that will include time apart without any feelings of jealousy or doubt! If you are open to having a conversation, let me know, and we can schedule a time to talk! I truly wish for you a life of gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    what is equality in marriage?
    It definitely does not have to do exclusively with same-sex marriages! It has to do with the equality of the partners...this is a partnership, and each person brings qualities, quirks, likes, and dislikes and it is vital that each partner accept the other for all that they are, and they work together and remember that no matter what, they are on the same team, and the outcome should be what is best for the union!! :D I hope this helps, but if you have further questions, I am here to help! I wish for you gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    Can marriage counseling help?
    100 Views
    chawdaneedshelp, I agree with manisha in that the negativity is going to get in the way of ANY relationship you try to have, so let's work on that, first and foremost. You say that both you and your wife have anger issues...are you hostile toward each other often or is it just when there is a disagreement that you both verbally attack? Also, have you tried neutral arguing? How about a safe word? There are so many strategies to having a successful and passionate relationship, and I just want you to experience gratitude, abundance, and passion!!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    my husband had an affair
    saadiqah86, I am sorry to hear that you are going through tough times! I would love to offer a compassionate ear and perhaps help you through this...if you would like to talk, I am here!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    Twice in Divorce Court.
    2.2k Views
    valahern, I only recently found this website, and I know you asked this question a year ago, but I am interested to know how you are now...what is the state of your union, so to speak? I would love to offer a compassionate ear if you would like to talk!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    Why are women so attention-seeking?
    Pete, I only recently found this website, and so I am reaching out. I know you asked this question last year, but I would love to know where you are now, and what is the state of your union? I am so exceedingly sorry for the advice I am reading in answer to your question. This is just a smathering of why the institution of marriage is in the state it is...things aren't 100% easy, and they want to run for the hills. How about being REAL and being people of our word...we say for better or worse, and just because we don't immediately feel gratified we are ready to bail. I would be willing to bet, that with just a little effort and a whole lot of love and understanding, you could have the most amazing relationship ever! You obviously love your wife and you want her to be happy, and I would love to assist you with that! No matter where you are in the relationship, I would love to chat with you!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    My husband wants a divorce but I don't I really want to work things out. Now, he refuses to talk to me, what can I do?
    1.9k Views
    rebeccas_dmp, I only recently found this website, and while this question is a year old, I wanted to check in with you and see how you were doing, where you are, and if you would like to chat. I would love to be there for you, no matter where you are and what has happened, so just let me know! :D
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    Tired of being a military wife, what should I do?
    932 Views
    MilitaryWife, I only recently found this site, and so I am reaching out to you, as I work with lots of military families. I would love to know how you are doing now, where you are at, etc. If you would like to chat, let me know! You are not alone!! :D
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    Divorced yet in a lot of pain
    104 Views
    joezawn, I am so sorry you are in such pain. I am also sorry no one answered your questions before now. I just found this site a couple of days ago, but I am here to help. I do not know where you are now in terms of your thoughts and feelings, so if you would, give me an update, and I would be more than happy to help navigate you! I wish you gratitude, abundance, and passion!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 17, 2015
    What questions should I ask before marriage?
    331 Views
    andrea.paul those are some GREAT questions, good job! I would also add just a few as to round out what you should know or be aware of going into a complex relationship like marriage: 1. How and when will you argue? Will you have these exchanges as soon as the issue presents itself or will you schedule it for a later time when both partners have had time to process and calm? 2. Will you use past behaviors in your discussions? 3. Do you have a SAFE word? A word used by either partner to signal that things are getting too heated and you need to take a break before one of you says or does something they will regret? 4. What will your day to day schedule look like and what household/family chores and errands will each partner be responsible for completing? What about your time together? 5. Will you have date nights or perhaps time where you volunteer together for a non-profit you both enjoy? What about your individual creative outlets? Will you share those or will they be reserved only for your time alone? 6. What is the way your partner most likes to receive love? Are they tactile and love to be touched, kissed, hugged, made love to, or are they visual and they like texts, notes, or gifts that you send or give unexpectedly? Are perhaps they like "acts of service"-washing their car, changing the oil, filling the gas tank, running errands they need to run, etc or perhaps they are auditory and they need to hear they are doing a good job or that you love them and this could be with phone calls, voice notes, or whispers in their ear... by knowing how your partner likes to receive love, it will make it easy for you to know they always know you love them. There is a wonderful book by Gary Chapman called the Five Love Languages and in that book there are quizzes for both men and women and at the end you will know your partner's love language, and you can then learn to "speak" it frequently and fluently!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 16, 2015
    How can I make her happy after having a recent fight with her? I made a mistake but now I want to correct it!
    Joshua, first of all, I honor you for being a man, admitting you were wrong, and seeking help in fixing the issue. Second, the issue that caused the fight very possibly wasn't what the fight truly was about. By this I mean, sometimes people snap at a family member or someone close to them because they felt attacked or upset about something else that happened that they feel they have no control over. Try to remember this for future arguments. Second, always try to only attack the issue, never the other person. When we argue, it is because we do not see something the way the other person sees it, and we have to remember that this isn't necessarily wrong, it is just the way they see it. Refrain from "You never, or you always" or any statement that starts with an accusation, as this will just put the other person on the defensive and the issue will escalate. Another great tactic that I teach couples that I work with is using a safe word...when one partner says the safe word, the argument stops...both partners take their own "neutral corner", if you will, and the issue is either discussed later that day or in what I call the "state of the Union" meeting that happens either weekly, biweekly, or at the very least, monthly. This can be over a beautiful candlelight dinner, a pizza and beer, or even just meatloaf at home, but the focus of the meeting is to bring up issues that have come up since the last meeting that bothered you and to discuss them rationally and with love, as well as to discuss the overall happiness and goals of the Union. My couples find this exercise absolutely invaluable because it allows for them first of all, to spend some quality time together without kids, in laws, phones, tv's , computers, or other distractions, and secondly it allows a calm and rational discussion of issues that might've otherwise become way out of hand in the heat of the moment. Learning to argue effectively is one of the many tools I use with my clients and it is extremely effective!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Sep 08, 2020
    How can I fix a broken relationship?
     how does your partner like to receive love? Are they tactile and physical or are they more verbal or perhaps they like the acts of service such as washing their car or running errands that they need to do or perhaps they are visual and they like little love notes or gifts...knowing how your PARTNER likes to receive love will give you lots of insight into areas that might be murky right now...I hear from people all the time that say, "I have given all that I have, I can't do any more" and just by helping them realize that they have been giving in a way that THEY would like to receive, but wasn't necessarily warmly received and therefore not as effective, we can re-shift their thinking and their approach and turn things around!! With every couple that comes to me, they always present with a problem or an issue they want to deal with, and after just a session or sometimes two, we find the deeper, more impactful issue that really needs dealt with, and then we can build an amazing relationship for them and their entire world! When our intimate relationship isn't all that we want or need it to be, it can adversely affect all areas of our life, from work, to family, to finances, to spirituality, to health, to our emotional wellbeing. You can save your marriage, and it will be well worth the time and energy you invest if you are committed!
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 16, 2015
    please what do i have to know before marriage? and please what should i ask before marriage
    110 Views
    What exactly are the areas you are wondering about? Conflict resolution? How to argue effectively? How to have a hot sex life? How to deal with all of the family members that come with being married? Religions? Cultures? Kids?
  • LoveCoach answered a question on Jun 16, 2015
    Family problem
    176 Views
    jassarora, it sounds to me like there are some underlying issues that need to be addressed and once they are, your entire family will find the utmost peace, joy, and happiness living abundantly together!  There is no greater feeling in the world than loving your spouse unconditionally and this is achievable when you have the right tools!  If you would like, I would love to share some of the tools I use in my practice to help couples with the exact issues you are facing!   
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