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  • DUNCAN asked a question on Aug 05, 2020
    How is the first year of wedding for the newlyweds?
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  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I need some ideas for wedding gifts. Please help.
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    It can be daunting trying to come up with the perfect gift for your bride or groom- to-be; you want it to be thoughtful and special. Try to stay away from those cliché domestic items (unless you have a good rationale for something specific). Start brainstorming for something that incorporates his interests, hobbies, or passions– you might just go out window shopping and see if something catches your eye; even if you leave with some new ideas, you have made progress. Do you know anybody with a special skill or craft? Sometimes handmade gifts by a mutual friend for hire can go a long way – these gifts are memorable and also save you time and pressure.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Are there any benefits of same sex marriages?
    Same sex marriages come with the same benefits as heterosexual marriages. Couples wishing to purchase insurance, a home, and care for one another until death, are able to do so without worrying about the legal ramifications of their lifestyle. They can act as beneficiaries, collect funding for one another, share in the division of household bills and chores, share checking account funds and manage loans, can make decisions that affect one another.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Need some genuine and tips on saving a marriage from falling apart. Please help.
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    In general, the place to start with any marital disturbance is with open communication. Often what happens in marriages over time is that communication starts to deteriorate. You may not talk to one another as much, and what is said may be negative or apathetic. People can grow bored or numb of one another; and without doing anything to fix it, just become complacent, resigned to “the way things are”. By starting with open, positive communication, you can really open things up for a brighter future.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What can be the most apt gift for wedding?
    Here is a list of four contributions from folks who either gave or received a great gift: · Restaurant gift certificate · Rubbermaid or Tupperware container sets in varying sizes · Pitcher sets, plates, or flatware French press coffee pot
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Nov 02, 2015
    I am looking for affordable marriage counseling. Need references.
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    Traditional marriage counseling can be expensive, but there are more affordable ways to go about counseling. Universities that offer therapy programs often use graduate students with clinical training to work independently on site. The sessions may be recorded, but these therapists are trained and certified. Another option is to use a subsidy, church, or other non-profit agency. If you or your spouse holds a career for an organization that offers EAP- employee assistance programs, you can receive free counseling sessions for any personal problem under the sun, including marriage counseling. Just call the number on the brochure and the receptionist can direct you to the proper agency. Your sessions will be covered, and are free of charge to you. Last, an alternative might be to look into online programs, or community programs. These are less expensive but still can be very beneficial. An online program such as the one provided by ourrelationship.com (https://www.ourrelationship.com) may be worth checking out.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I lost my marriage certificate. What are the steps to get a new one made?
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    Go to the courthouse or the website for the court which issued your certificate. There should be an option or order a copy for a nominal fee. You will likely need to fill out and submit a request form.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How much is marriage counseling prevelant among masses?
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    Oddly enough, there does not appear to be a whole lot of research that is readily available regarding the prevalence of marriage counseling. However, there is research on premarital counseling, its studies seem to show positive outcomes that indicate premarital counseling does yield prevention of divorce before marriage even takes place. According to an article by Psychcentral, one of the driving forces that causes couples to seek marriage counseling has to do with issues related to infidelity But infidelity is a common buzzword, one that is advertised in excess. Due to this, other issues that lead to counseling are obscured and perhaps underreported; therefore the prevalence of couples in therapy is higher than we think. On the contrary, the prevalence of infidelity is actually much lower than you might think. Companies promoting products and services actually target those with concerns of infidelity, going as far as to promoting couple therapy or reading materials actually make up statistics for their advertising. In reality, infidelity is actually rare, though its prevalence increases with the age of the marriage. According to actual stats, men are more likely to have extramarital affairs than women, and combining husbands and wives, the prevalence of extramarital sexual affairs was below 6%.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    My relationship is in trouble. What should I do now?
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    Calm down and do not panic. The type of trouble your relationship is in will guide you where to go next. Problems can stem from issues that are obvious and in plain sight; such as infidelity; Problems can also stem from issues we can’t see, such as distance or irritability for which there is no clear explanation. If you can get your partner to open up long enough to understand the problem as they see it, you’re well on your way to finding a resolution.Sometimes though, one partner is unwilling to communicate or make effort to change. But don’t despair. If your partner is stubborn but you’re still desperate to make it work, try going to a marital therapist by yourself. Tell them what is happening, he or she can help you identify the source of the problems and provide an opinion as to whether your marriage can be saved. If needed, they can help you examine individual issues, and rekindle your sense of self worth – this can be damaged considerably, in bad relationships that go on for years. In saving the relationship, it may be that there’s something you need to do differently - maybe your partner is feeling smothered, for example. Or, it could be something larger, like your partner is abusive, or is struggling with addiction. Or, it’s possible you’ve just chosen the wron partner. A counselor can help you to come to a decision about whether you need to make big changes and possibly get out of the marriag If so, they can advise you of next steps.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    In the history of relationships, very few people can sustain their relationship. Why so?
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    I believe it’s a symptom of the times in which we find ourselves – because historically, divorce was never an option. The partner we married was going to be our partner for life; there was no way around it. So women and men learned to get along together in marriage; it was either that, or live in misery. People also worked very hard for their survival in earlier times, and their worries were significant. Women worried about food, sickness, and the death of close family members; having enough wood to make it through winter, getting through the day’s work before sundown. They didn’t have time to stew over marital blues. These days we stand up for ourselves as equals in marriage. We speak our minds, and wewalk away when we’re unhappy. Now that we’ve raised up our standards and gained self worth, appreciation of our marriage vows has decreased. Sadly, this marker of our life and times leads us to take marriage for granted, and we may throw in the towel rather than try to work things out.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How can you improve your health while planning your pregnancy?
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    When planning for pregnancy, it is important to take excellent care of the body. Avoiding caffeine and refined sugars, implementing a varietal diet, getting plenty of exercise and rest, and regular check ups with the doctor are ways that one can improve overall health in preparation for pregnancy.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What things should I do before I get pregnant?
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    Take full stock of your situation; career, home, and your emotional, physical and financial well being. Ask yourself what sacrifices you are willing to make, and whether those sacrifices will be worthwhile. Three things to do right away are: · Consulting with the family doctor, get a full physical check-up. · Join a gym or, some other exercise program to get into shape. · Eat healthy foods, implement a diet that is rich with fruits and vegetables.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How should I prepare my body and mind for getting pregnant?
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    It’s never a bad idea to visit a counselor, to discuss your future plans and gain some insight. Sometimes an outside party can help you to identify any areas in your life that need attention, or guide you in setting goals and milestones. You will want to be certain your psyche is in good health, and that you and your partner are both emotionally mature enough for the demands of a child. You should also see your primary care doctor or an OBGYN to discuss your plans. They can give you some health tips and advice, evaluate your physical readiness, and help you address any concerns you may have going forward.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I am having trouble with my in-laws, need some advice on how to make peace with them.
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    Depending on the trouble you are having, you should start by talking it out with your spouse. Hopefully he is receptive to your discussion. If he feels protective, he could get upset. If he is receptive, ask if he will help you deal with the matter. If he isn't receptive at first, give him some time to calm down and think about it; he may feel differently later. You might ask his permission to speak together as a group, and set some boundaries. For example, if your concern is that his in laws are talking behind your back; let them know it concerns you and that you'd like them to speak with you directly from now on.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What things I should keep in mind to start planning for a baby?
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    Many couples do not realize the physical, emotional, and financial tax a child can be on their lives. Some couples are advised to get a puppy, to experience the reality of what a child can be like; someone your life must revolve around. Consider how you handle stress; how you and your partner will share in the responsibility; and when you will know it’s time for a break. Consider what route you will take when hiring daycare when it is needed. Are you really financially stable? What types of things might happen that could change your plans drastically? Considering all of the possibilities and potential setbacks or hardships can help you determine readiness and prepare for what’s to come
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    In what ways my husband can help me in conceiving a baby?
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    When it comes to the miracle of conception and childbirth, there are still many mysteries. Science has yet to come up with hard proof of any sexual positions, foods, or activities during or after coitus that affect conception outcomes. The best thing your husband can do is help you to keep track of your ovulation calendar, and to support you in every way possible while enjoying the fun in making a baby.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I am looking for marriage counselors who can give advice for newlyweds.
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    Marriage counselors are typically trained to work with couples at all stages; and you do not have to be in conflict to see one. You might, however, consider someone who specializes in pre-marital counseling, since those types of counselors typically provide exercises and tips that are meant to be used over the long haul. You haven't missed the boat if you didn't take premarital counseling prior to your wedding, and it is not too late now. As newlyweds, this is probably a better fitting option; you can start by typing in a search for "Premarital counselors in my area," or talk to the minister at you
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Oct 07, 2016
    Need some evergreen tips on marriage and sex.
    Indeed, Christian couples may struggle with issues around morality and maintaining a set of values that they both agree on.  Husbands and wives may have different ideas about what constitutes sex, pleasure, and intimacy. Some Christian writers take a modern perspective on sex, and discuss taboo subjects like orgasm.   One writer featured on Evergreen’s blog even encourages individuals to engage in self exploration to understand their bodies and how to achieve climax, so that they will know what to do with their partner.  Other more traditional voices might struggle with this notion, since the act of self exploration does not respect Christianity by old standards.   Give some thought to the world you live in now; and consider  how you can live your faith pragmatically within it.  Orgasms are a part of life and love; how you choose to embrace or displace pleasure as it relates to Christ- is entirely up to you.  Consider whether you are a traditional worshiper, or a modernized one – are you someone with whom adapts readily to your environment and to cultural change? Or,  do you resist the changes, preferring to stick with ancient traditions and beliefs?
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    My partner and I are newlyweds and looking for some christian marriage advice. Need tips.
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    As young people, try not to get caught up in the details when it comes to scripture. Many couples that bond over their bible studies, also find arguments when they discover their differing interpretations and views of the word of God. Remember, there are no right or wrong answers here; it’s not the details of the story that are important. It is the message or the moral of the story that is important. People will forever argue about the many roles of the Hebrew people, and boundless reasons why many biblical characters did what they did. Know that the stories themselves have been translated, told, and repeated again and again by man; the stories are not perfect and neither are we. Focus on the big picture, and what you can personally take from them scriptures and apply to your life and marriage. Respecting one another’s interpretations of stories and personal impact of the events should ultimately lead to intimate bonding, not disagreement.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How do I know that I am pregnant? What are its signs?
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    The first and most obvious sign for most women is a missed period. Though, some women can have spotting or small amounts of bleeding during the first stage. Other signs of pregnancy may include nausea, constipation, fatigue, and physical changes, such a darkening of the areolas. Your body temperature may elevate slightly, and you may have food cravings. Back pain, constipation, and really, anything out of the ordinary is suspect; especially alongside a missed period.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Is intimacy important in a friendship?
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    Close friendships often involve what’s called “emotional intimacy” which has to do with spiritual connections and personal bonding. Being comfortable talking and expressing your innermost thoughts and feelings is a form of emotional intimacy. Emotional intimacy is one of the key elements of closeness in a friendship, especially amongst children and young people. It is of the ways we come to learn to engage intimacy in our adult love lives. Whether or not it is important in friendships (I say it is), It can certainly be very therapeutic, allowing us to release energy through confiding in one another, and therefore experiencing trust. Being emotionally close to others as children opens the door for us to engage in intimate relationships as adults.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How to get ready in order to get pregnant?
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    Everything in your life will be affected by both pregnancy and baby, so the more you plan, the better off you’ll be. Start by preparing your budget and decide how long you will work, and ensure you’ll be stable financially should the pregnancy prevent you from working. You will need to have good reliable transportation. Choose a midwife or obstetrician, and talk with your partner about your expectations for parenting and for delivery. Will you use a hospital, birthing center, or try for a home birth? Will you use medications during delivery? What will your primary caregiving roles be when it comes to baby? Will you play it by ear, or work on a schedule? Will you breast or bottle feed? Other things you’ll want to prepare for, include dietary (be sure to stock up on healthy snack foods!) considerations. Get yourself a pregnancy journal, and books to read that educate you about pregnancy and delivery. You may want to consider a Lamaze or delivery class, also. Getting things ready for baby is the next obvious step. Make lists of what you think you’ll need, what optional items you want, and start on your baby’s room. Plenty of diapers, clothes, a carseat, cradle, or crib and stroller are just a few of the necessities.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What are the tips that can help me in gettting pregnant faster?
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    Timing is key. A woman ovulates around two weeks after her period’s starting day. Keep a calendar to count the days. Around the fourteenth day from the first day of the last period, the window of opportunity opens. The egg is released from the ovaries and travels down the fallopian tube; where it stays for a day or two. If you use careful timing, and are intimate during this window, you significantly increase your chances of conception. Vary your strategy and timing from month to month if it doesn’t work right away, or try and have intercourse at least one time each day during the open window.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Please help me in suggesting what to eat before pregnancy.
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    A well-rounded diet that is high in protein, vitamins, and minerals is needed to support your body and prepare it for a growing baby. Eat a hearty breakfast each day; as to include bran and fruit, and throughout the day, Green leafies (like Kale), and beans and rice that offer essential amino acids are all important.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How do you find out that you are pregnant?
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    The best, no-nonsense way to learn whether you are pregnant is to get to your primary care doctor for a blood test. A blood test will show right away wither you carry the pregnancy hormone. If you’ve just missed your period, you can take a store bought pregnancy test as soon as the first day of the missed period. For maximum accuracy, take the test upon waking in the morning as that is the time when most of the hormone is present in urine and most likely to show up on the test.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    There are many questions about divorce going in my mind. Looking for a solution.
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    Divorce is certainly a topic not to be taken lightly. If you are considering divorce, there are certainly many preponderances, such as: * What will happen with the children? Will they have visitation? Have to change schools? * Who will move out? Will I have to get an apartment? * Which one of us will take which assets and what will happen with the debt we have accumulated? * Do we sell our house? * How will I deal with the pain? *Will my wife/husband try to take the kids? * Will my husband/wife end up with everything? * How will I support myself? If you have tried everything to save your marriage, but are still unhappy, filing for divorce may be your best option. If it is clear in your mind that this is what you need to do, it may be best to save the details for later and focus on the first step, which is filing for the divorce. You will retrieve the paperwork you need from the courthouse in your jurisdiction, and you will find that many of these questions are already included in the paperwork. You'll write what your divorce terms are in the paperwork, and your spouse will have a chance to dispute the terms. The process takes several months usually, so you do have time to think things over. If your relationship is so disturbed that you do not feel you are likely to come to agreements on your own, the court will initiate an arbitration process. You can consult with an attorney, paralegal, or your local financial aid office for assistance with filling out the forms.
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I am expecting and want some information about pregnancy.
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    One of the best books out there on pregnancy and childbirth is entitled “What to Expect When you’re Expecting”. This book is made up of contributions from physicians and obstetricians, and follows a question and answer format It’s almost like a giant FAQ guide for expectant mothers. The information covers a significant range, from pre-pregnancy (learning you’re pregnant) all the way through post-delivery (bringing baby home).
  • DUNCAN answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What is divorce mediation process?
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    Divorce mediation is a process which seeks to help a couple that is divorcing to negotiate the logistics of their separation, addressing items like property and shared assets, resources, debt, current living arrangements, and visitation/ custody options for the children. In such proceedings, the mediator will ask what each party wants out of the divorce, and help the couple to negotiate an arrangement as best they can. Mediation is different from arbitration as the couple is trying to discuss the issues amongst themselves to come to agreements, rather than have an arbitrator make decisions for them. An arbitrator is needed if there is too much hostility or bitterness and the couple cannot communicate effectively or agree on terms.
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