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  • CUEVAS asked a question on Aug 20, 2015
    How to stop a divorce after separation?
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 04, 2015
    Is saving your marriage for years worth even if it's grounds are not strong?
    What do you mean the grounds are not strong? Is the problem too drastic that it cannot be changed at all? Whatever be the case, know that you can save your marriage if you both intend to. Please speak to a therapist and get help immediately.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 04, 2015
    Which christian books on marriage are meant for couples?
    Love Life for Every Married Couple is pretty awesome.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 04, 2015
    What are marriage licenses meant for?
    A license is essentially a legal permit that states you and your partner are legally allowed to marry. You need a marriage license to show that you both are adults and legally qualified to marry.    
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Oct 06, 2015
    What is the basic requirement to get a marriage license?
    Getting a marriage licence is very important. There are several essential things that you must know. Obtaining a marriage license requires various forms, applications, proofs, and in some cases, even medical tests.  
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What is love? Is it the strongest emotion in the world?
    There is no perfect definition of love. Generally, though love that is unselfish and sustainable has the power to move mountains. Romantic love both exhilarates and motivates us. It is also critical to the continuation of our species. “Brotherly” love has us acutely aware of the needs of our neighbors and motivates to address these needs. “Agape” love is sacrificial in nature and is often associated with parenting or a deity. True love hopes all things, endures all things, and believes all things.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What are the best engagement gift ideas for couples to surprise them?
    The best engagement gift for a couple is a gift that is given with thought and sincerity. While store bought gifts are okay, the handmade options tend to be the best. At a minimum, all gifts should come accompanied with a handwritten note that demonstrates intimacy and support. Coupling gifts with the couple’s interests and motivations is always advisable.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What are the signs that shows that you are pregnant?
    While there are numerous signs that a pregnancy has begun, a few signs seem to strongly indicate the beginning of a pregnancy. These signs include: Swollen and tender breasts. Soreness or tingling in breasts is one of pregnancy’s most common symptoms. Darkening areolas. For many women, hormones can cause the areolas, the circles around nipples, to widen and darken during pregnancy. Spotting. About five to 10 days after conception, some women notice light spotting when the embryo implants in the uterus. Urinary frequency or constipation. When you’re pregnant, your uterus presses directly on the bladder leading to more frequent urination. Fatigue. Many women feel very tired early in pregnancy (it takes lots of energy to create a baby!). In fact, fatigue is often one of the first signs of pregnancy.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Suggest me a long distance relationship advice that can help me sustain my relationship.
    Long distance relationships are sustainable. View it as a learning journey for the both of you. A pithy Chinese saying goes, “Real gold is not afraid of the test of fire.” Instead of thinking that a long distance relationship is pulling you two apart, you should believe that through this experience, the both of you will be bound together even stronger. In order to sustain the relationship, set consistent meet-ups, do not overdo communication, and practice good listening.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How should I solve my common problems in marriage?
    Communication is the key to working through common marriage problems. Partners must be willing to articulate and troubleshot issues before they become taxing. When communication has declined in a relationship, it is vital to seek the assistance of a neutral third party. A counselor or religious worker may be able to provide the insight needed to work through the issues. Do not wait until marital problems are overwhelming before you seek insight from a counselor.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to concieve a baby boy?
    The Shettles Method of male conception operates under the assumption that, under perfect conditions, male sperm, which are small and fast, but fragile, can reach the egg faster than female sperm which are large and slow, but strong. Inasmuch, it is important to have sex as close to ovulation as possible. When the woman is sure that she is ovulating, the couple should engage in intercourse. In general, aim to have sex in the narrow window starting 24 hours before ovulation and ending 12 hours after ovulation.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Suggest some gifts for groom from the bride on the day of engagement?
    Engagement gifts run the gambit. Suitable and appropriate options include: Stationary, spirts, entertainment tickets, wine glasses, movies passes, and the like. Do not wait if you choose to purchase an engagement gift for a couple. Typically, gifts that are purchased more than two months after the announcement of a marriage are considered taboo.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How much a marriage licenses cost?
    Generally, most county governments offer marriage licenses that cost between $25 and $100. The costs of the licenses are used to offset the expenses of the probate and family courts. Typically, all forms of payment are accepted by license-issuing entities. It is also important to remember that most licensing agencies will require both parties to appear before an agent before a license is issued.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    My friend's wedding is round the corner. Please suggest some wedding gifts for friends.
    Ah, wedding gifts. The options are limitless. Unlike years past, today's couples want modern expressions of the traditional wedding gifts, even though some of the most coveted gifts still hail from the kitchen, dining, bedding, and bath departments. For deluxe bedding and bath, give them gifts that'll create a spa-like, hotel environment every morning when they wake up. Think about buying them a trio of gifts to create a theme: What about a set of super-soft pillows, a thick down blanket, and a pair of high thread-count hotel towels? Kitchen items – especially the gourmet varieties – are always in vogue.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    I need marriage counseling help urgently. Please help me out.
    According to the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy: "Research studies repeatedly demonstrate the effectiveness of marriage and family therapy in treating the full range of mental and emotional disorders and health problems.” In an argument when your heart rate goes over 100 beats a minute, you are incapable of hearing what your partner is trying to tell you. If you find yourself in substantial and acute marital duress, seek a community mental health provider, pastor, priest, or rabbi. These “triage” professionals, are equipped to see you immediately, assess difficulties, and put and action plan in place for you and your partner.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What is marriage counseling? How is it different from couple's therapy?
    Marriage counseling tends to deal with acute issues confronting a couple. Abuse, infidelity, and the like are the types of issues confronted in marriage counseling. Couple’s therapy, on the other hand, is focused on providing couples with the tools they will need to cope with the stressors associated with marriage bond. Simply put, folks in trouble seek marriage counseling, while healthy couples interested in strengthening the marriage seek couple’s therapy.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    I need marital counseling now. Please help me save my marriage today.
    Breathe, friend, you are going to get through this. Step one is self-care. Take a walk, engaging in some breathing exercises and prepare body and soul for the grueling work ahead. If you are in crisis, find a church, synagogue, or mosque and ask the clergyperson at one of these institutions to help you triage current difficulties. Second, surround yourself with non-anxious support. Close friends and family members may be your best options here. Finally, determine if your partner is willing to engage in conversation about the current difficulties.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to save your relationship with your boyfriend?
    The first question to ask is, “Does my boyfriend still want to be a part of the relationship?” As painful as may be to accept, you cannot WILL your beloved to stay in a relationship that he no longer wants to be a part of any more. That said, if you are at fault for the demise of your relationship because of some type of inappropriate act, you should seek forgiveness and inquire as to whether or not a restoration of the relationship is a possibility. If the answer is no, take care of yourself and recognize that there may be other relationships in the future.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What are the best dating advice for women?
    The best dating advice for women is “love yourself first.” If a person’s self-image is poor, she may make unnecessary compromises in the relationship. If a date or partner speaks in a demeaning way to you, chances are you picked an unhealthy relationship. People who love you, respect you. If there is a notable absence of respect in a budding relationship, do not look for love there.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to file for a divorce?
    Filing for divorce is a multi-faceted process. To begin, it is wise to seek the counsel of an attorney. Second, become knowledgeable in the divorce process in your geographical context. Generally, you can file for a fault or no-fault divorce. The former can be an expedited process if several criteria are met. If you and your partner seek a no-fault divorce, you may be able to resolve a lot of the legalities before appearing before a judge. In all cases, be prepared to spend some money.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to save a relationship from break up?
    As stated before, “it takes two to tango” in relationships. If the relationship is falling apart, both partners must be willing to put forth substantial effort to work through the issues. Healing a suffering relationship requires honesty, transparency, and a willingness to hear stinging critiques if appropriate. Despite the deepest, sincerest desires of one partner, a single cannot solve the problems of a “double.” Of course, there are many tools to use if both partners feel compelled to move toward the healing of the relationship. Counseling, conversation, and forgiveness are paramount.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Oct 07, 2016
    How to find a marriage counselor within your budget?
    Those who are cash-strapped may be relieved to learn that many marriage counselors provide services that are income-sensitive.  Counseling services provided by community agencies, churches, and synagogues offer these type of sliding-scale options. That said, most counselors will require that participants pay a little of the expense of counseling to insure that there is “buy-in” with the process. Be prepared to pay at least $10 for every session.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How can I improve my relationship with communication techniques to avoid conflict?
    The most important thing you can do to enhance communication deficiencies in your relationship is learning how to adopt language that invites “give and take” in conversation. Adopting “I feel” language is an important way couples may express concerns to one another without using demeaning “You” language. An openness to compromise is essential, too. Unilateral demands and decisions will deepen the marital angst. Finding a “neutral” party to mediate between partners can also help enhance communication. A third person can facilitate roleplaying which opens the lines of communication.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How can I make my unhappy wife feel good?
    You can’t. Although we all wish we had the power to help our partners work through unhappiness, depression, and the like, it is always up to the individual to practice the kinds of self-care that can help the individual through the distress. That said, we must be empathetic and offer support to our partners when the duress is deepening. Specifically, create time and space to hear our loved one’s concerns and troubles is vital. Further, we can offer to do “the little” things like cooking and cleaning to give our beloved ones an opportunity to double-down on self-care.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Why do men cheat in most cases?
    While there are a variety of reasons men cheat, most of the reasons can be traced to unmet ego needs. Because of issues in the man’s family of origin, the unfaithful partner may not have well-developed empathy or self-esteem. In the existing partnership, a man (or woman) with unmet psychological or emotional needs may stray from the marriage to have these needs met. In all cases of infidelity, individual and couple’s counseling is a priority.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Please tell me some positive ideas that will help me in coping with divorce?
    The most important tool to utilize as you approach the likelihood of divorce is attending to self-care needs. Adequate rest, nutrition, exercise, and conversation are important self-help facets. Religious practice, prayer, and the like me be very helpful in cultivating peace if you are open to such things. A therapeutic relationship with a counselor is vital too. Do not wait until the pain is overwhelming before getting help. Ultimately, it may be helpful to get away – as in vacation – if the space and time are available.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What if I disagree with the grounds for divorce?
    If you disagree with the grounds for divorce, prepare for a fight. Contested divorces tend to be very expensive and time consuming. On the good side of the ledger, a contested “grounds divorce” carries a significant burden of proof. You may find that as the divorce proceedings continue, the grounds-seeking partner may need to back away from the initial claim and offer a no-fault divorce. It is highly appropriate to seek the counsel of a seasoned family law attorney if you are dealing with a grounds divorce. If children are involved, a Guardian ad Litem will be needed too.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Are marriage separation and divorce the same things?
    Separation implies that the partners are living apart as they work through their marital discord. Legally recognized in most constituencies, separation is often viewed as a prelude to divorce. Estranged partners often seek temporary support as they work through the facets of a divorce proceeding. Examples of support include housing, child support, alimony, and the like. When the divorce is finalized, often years after the initial filing of separation, support may become permanent.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to keep problems rising from divorce and children separate?
    Children are deeply affected by divorce. Even if the marital bond is irreparably damaged by abuse, the children suffer. Inasmuch, it is important to enlist the help of therapists and other caregivers. Children should be offered ample opportunity to explore their feelings about the divorce with a caring professional. Further, the courts may incest that a Guardian ad litem be retained on the children’s behalf to ensure that the children’s best interests are preserved at all times.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What is dispute resolution in a marriage?
    Dispute resolution is an intermediate measure between separation and divorce wherein the partners work with a mediator to deal with some of the issues associated with the end of the marriage. Issues that are often considered for resolution include child custody, the division of debts and assets, alimony, child support, and the like. Often, dispute resolution is conducted in the presence of the parties’ attorneys. In many judiciaries, dispute resolution is mandated under law.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    I am not happy with my married life. I want a divorce what shoud I do next?
    Before you seek a divorce, make sure you and your partner have exhausted all efforts at reconciliation and renewal. Clearly, counseling should be your first stop before the attorney’s office. That said, if an attorney is needed, make sure you retain one that is skilled in the ways of family law litigation. An attorney will explain your area’s divorce laws, and will help you determine which options are best for you and your particular situation. As stated in numerous other places, conversation with a therapist is advised at all points during the course of a divorce proceeding.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Is dating a married man ethically correct?
    In a word, NO! A married person is ethically obligated to end one relationship before beginning another. If you chose to date a person already in a relationship with a committed partner, you are enabling an already corrosive situation to further decline. If a person is willing to be unfaithful to partner to be with you, how do you think that individual will treat you when the relationship hits a rocky place? Another question for you… What about you as you are drawn to an individual who is willing to cheat on a significant other?
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    What can be the common reasons for divorce?
    Common reasons for divorce abound. Examples of reasons individuals seek divorce include communication difficulties, financial duress, infidelity, abuse, substance abuse, health issues, and disputes about children and parenting. Partners must determine if the issues they face in the marriage rise to the level of irreconcilability. Too often, partners seek the divorce track before taking time to adequately consider the issues before them. That said, physical and emotional abuse are game stoppers. If the partner who commits these types of actions is unwilling to fully confess and address the situation, the marriage must end as soon as possible.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    Does indulging in dating after divorce correct?
    Dating after divorce is appropriate so long as you have engaged in self-care prior to the dating. A divorce, even after a very tumultuous marriage, creates grief in one’s life. It is very important to process the grief if you are serious about engaging in meaningful relationships after the divorce. Bear in mind, the goal of dating should be to enjoy the company of another without the expectation of long-term commitment or marriage. When in doubt, take your time in moving back in to the dating world.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How should I get over a break up?
    There is no tried-and-true way to work beyond a breakup. As everyone is put together differently, everyone grieves differently. Surrounding yourself with supportive friends and loved ones is a tremendous and appropriate first step. Engaging in self-care, including healthy dieting and exercise, is always appropriate as you move through the loss. If your former partner in willing to talk about the breakup, with the end of tying-up loose ends, consider this possibility.
  • CUEVAS answered a question on Sep 03, 2015
    How to get a divorce if my spouse is not agreeing with it?
    Even if your spouse does not agree to a divorce, you do not need to have his/her consent to move forward with the divorce. Recognize, however, that divorce outside of mutuality will create substantial duress on the part of your spouse. This duress will eventually spill into the divorce action creating a very difficult situation for all. If it is possible, try to clearly articulate your rationale for divorce to your spouse. Seek the counsel of a therapist if possible.