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  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    Need some tips on getting pregnant and parenting as well.
    On getting pregnant, make sure that you have done the proper preparations and created an environment that is conducive for conceiving. Make sure you are ovulating, and that your husband's sperm count is in tiptop condition, and prepare for a wild night of passion. On parenting, it is practical to ensure that you are financially and emotionally prepared to become a parent, because it will be the biggest test of your life for sure. Read up on a lot of parenting books, go for parenting classes and talks, and embrace the life of a 24/7 parent!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    Is it possible to flirt without flirting?
    Sometimes when you compliment someone like a coworker, especially on their looks, they might take it the wrong way and think that you are hitting on them... Such is life, there's no such thing as giving compliments as form of goodwill anymore, because everyone thinks that we have an agenda.  So yes, it can be possible, especially when you are unknowingly doing the flirting.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    Is giving cash better than a wedding gift?
    As they say, cash is king! That's because gifting cash allows the couple to choose an item that would be more beneficial to them, than to have something they might not need. Also, gifting cash might just help them cover the cost of their wedding - we all know how that can damage a bank account.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    I'm scared to go for couples counseling. But my partner insists. How should I overcome this fear?
    Take a deep breathe and just take the plunge. We all get scared when we're made to do something that we may not particulary like. We might will form up our ideas in our heads bout how horrible the experience will be without any firsthand knowledge of it. Sometimes when we take that first step we realise that it's not so difficult after all. Marriage counselling is not meant as a blaming session against you, but in fact is a great way to learn more about a marriage and effectively manage it. Go for it!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    I am trying to get pregnant, but failed. Can you tell me best chance to concieve?
    Hi there! I will have to say that your family doctor or gynecologist is the best person for you to consult on the best chances for yourself on whether you can conceive. This is because they would have knowledge on your medical history and can advise you according on the best methods of conception.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    How to stop marital problems during pregnancy?
    If you have marital problems, engage the help of a professional marriage therapist or get support from your family and friends. And yes I agree with the others! Take very good care of yourself during your pregnancy. Don't engage in confrontations that could tire you out or worse, involve yourself in violent outbursts that might lead to a miscarriage.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    How can I sign on a marriage certificate?
    I'll be funny and say, use a good pen to sign on your marriage certificate. But I digress. If you mean that you would like to get a marriage certificate, then you should find a partner who would like to marry you, and apply for a marriage certificate in your area's marriage registry. You will have to go through a series of processes depending on your government, and will only get to sign it on the day of your legal wedding solemnization.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    How can I bless my friends with wedding wishes in case I can't express them in words?
    Getting a gift is a good idea. If you are very close to your soon-to-be wedded friends, it would be a great gift if you could help them out in the wedding planning. If you are the bride's friend, accompany her to the dress fitting, cake tasting or food tasting sessions. If you are the groom's pal get him fitted for a suit. A bachelor or bachelorette party for the engaged couple might be fun as well.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 10, 2015
    Does relationship tests really test a couples compatibility?
    A marriage is a test of it's own. This is especially so for the first few years perhaps, as the couple learn how to adapt to the habits of not just their spouse but also their's spouse's family's expectations of them. It can be a very trying moment that truly makes or breaks a relationship.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Is relationship therapist as a career right for me?
    Being patient, understanding and able to be objective at all times are important qualities for a relationship therapist to have. In addition to have a good knowledge of human psychology as well as marriage techniques, the therapist must also be adept in handling conflict management in the event of escalating situations. If you feel like you are able to perform all of these qualities, then yes this career path can be considered!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How to choose a couples therapists?
    Pick a therapists who most of all makes you feel comfortable. For all the education in the world, sometimes therapists can be very judgemental and impose their personal views on you as a couple. Also, find one that can retain objectivity throughout the sessions. This is important as the objectivity plays an important part of conflict resolution that will make appease the both of you. Lastly find a therapist who advocates marriage techniques that are easy to apply, and do not impeach on your values and beliefs.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Which christian books on marriage are meant for couples?
    My husband and I are reading 'Strengthening Your Marriage' by Wayne A. Mack. It's quite a useful guide for defining what a Christian marriage is all about, and what the roles of a husband and wife are. Although I do find the book quite outdated in terms of its ideas (it was written in the 1970s after all), I would say that it is quite a balanced book, and does give good advice and tips on how to make your marriage strong. But of course, it's important to put what you learnt in practice!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What is the most common point of argument between couples in a marriage?
    While I dislike arguments, my husband and I do quarrel about the following things: a. Undone or pending household chores b. Financial issues - I am currently a stay at home mum so I am not making an income c. More time for my husband to take care of the kids d. Parent-in-law issues. e. Jealousy issues - husband always stares at other women even when I am around 7. Lack of repect for my opinions The list could go not, but I shall stop at here.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How can I search for marriage and relationship counseling institutes?
    The internet is a great resource for finding a reputable counselling institute near you. Additionally, you can head to a social office and consult the social workers there on any counsellors that they could recommend to you. If there is an SOS helpline in your area, give them a call and I'm sure they will be glad to help you out with a search for counsellors. Good luck!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    How does marriage and couples therapy help a couple in the long run?
    I guess that marriage therapy helps couples understand each other better, and learn about their specific communication styles, love languages and provide insight on their values and ideals. Marriage theraphy also provides a time and place for conflict resolution by an objective and professionally trained counsellor, so that couples can learn from previous or current conflicts and take further action to prevent more conflicts.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What are marriage licenses meant for?
    As CUEVAS and BYRD54 have stated, a marriage license is legal proof of your marriage's existence and is a document that might be required for any governmental processes that might require it. For example, in Singapore, potential buyers of government built houses must be married and produce a marriage certificate before they are allowed to purchase a house.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    My wife is unhappy in marriage. Is divorce the next thing?
    Hello! Firstly, why are you unhappy? It would help if you put down what your problems are specifically so that we can have a better understanding of your situation. If your unhappiness stems from a serious issue despite numerous efforts of trying to make it right - for example, even going through marriage counselling didn't work - than perhaps divorce can be an option.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    What to do when you are unhappy to make yourself happy?
    I usually do activities that I enjoy, such as taking a leisurely walk, reading a book, dabbling in some form of art, or just watching a TV show to take my mind off things. If the unhappiness is really bothering me, I talk to someone I trust such as my husband or sibling.
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    I want to divorce my snoring wife as I am not happy with her. How to file a divorce?
    Hi there, perhaps you should looking into solutions that can help resolve your wife's snoring problem. There are many non-surgical options to assist proper breathing and prevent snoring, but for more serious cases, surgery is an option as well. My gut feel is that it is more than your wife's snoring that is prompting to you consider divorce, because it would be much easier to help her with the condition!
  • Crystalbella answered a question on Sep 09, 2015
    Suggest some dating advice for girls that can of some help to them.
    If you are dating the guy for the first time, protect yourself by dating in public places and not going to secluded ones. Sometimes, girls can have really high expectations for a guy based on all the fairytale portrayals or romantic movies, but it's good to have a reality check sometimes and see the person that you are dating for what he is and not what you expect he can be.