- TwinMom asked We want a separation (I do more than he does) but neither wants to leave. How do I convince my husband that him leaving is easier than me and the kids and two dogs leaving? He thinks we can try to work it out and not have anyone leave but I know that is not going to work. I'm trying to save my marriage by having us live separately and he thinks if he leaves it means he won't be able to ever come back. How do I convince him that his decision to not leave is going to ultimately end the marriage.