- STONE43 answered Couples who have made up their minds to divorce will be less likely to gain benefit from attending a marriage retreat. That’s because in most cases, some level of commitment is required to work on the relationship and manage the relationship issues that are causing problems. If you’re thinking about divorce, it’s not too late to consider marriage retreat as a last ditch option for reconnecting and infusing your marriage with the additional energy it needs to survive. If you’ve already made up your mind, however, and unless both partners are willing to work things out, marriage retreat won’t be of much use to you.
- STONE43 answered In the early days of internet dating, there was a stigma attached to finding one’s love online. That has gone away as more and more people have discovered the benefits of online dating, and as the internet has become more and more of an everyday tool people use for all kinds of services. Another big change over the years is the proliferation of dating websites. Now you can find more than just a one-size-fits-all approach to online dating, and dating websites have expanded and specialized to help people from all walks of life find that special someone.
- STONE43 answered The Bible lays out some solid ground rules for Christian marriage, but there are also many modern Christian authors with good advice. The best tidbit of wisdom comes from Gary Thomas, who asks us to consider whether God gave us marriage not to make us happy, but to make us holy. Don’t look to your marriage as the source of all your happiness, but as a source of both challenges and joy that will help you grow in partnership with each other and with God. Plan on making the time investment and learning from your experiences to improve your relationship.
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"Christian advice on relationships needed. Should I stay in the relationship even if I am unhappy. "Many people make the mistake of thinking their marriages should make them happy. The phrase “happily ever after” may have set us up for this expectation, but in reality, marriage will make most of us happy and sad. It will challenge us some days until we want to pull our hair out. Other days it will be a source of pride and comfort to us. Most days will include some frustration and some small pleasures, but we need to look into ourselves for our happiness, and learn to see our marriages as God intended: opportunities for intimacy that will challenge us to grow and learn.
- STONE43 answered Finding a Christian marriage counselor is much easier than it used to be. However, you want to make sure you’ve found the right match for you, so ask them a few questions before getting involved with the counselor you choose. · What is your approach to solving marital problems? · In your view, what is God’s role in our marriage? · How do you apply Christian values in your couples counseling? · How long have you been married, and what kinds of challenges have you faced with your spouse? · How did your faith help you during those times of trial?
- STONE43 answered Intimacy is one of God’s greatest gifts to us, and being intimate with your spouse happens on many levels. The word intimacy includes not only physical affection and a strong emotional bond, but also a supreme level of trust where we can share our thoughts and feelings with one another as we navigate life’s many paths together. To cultivate intimacy, you’ll need to spend time alone together. You should also share your beliefs and the life lessons that have increased your personal growth, as these stories will help you increase the level of intimacy in your relationship with each other.
- STONE43 answered Couples who are given to mundane arguments have perhaps the most to gain from couples counseling. That’s because the therapy will give you, as a couple, the opportunity to reflect on some of those day to day arguments and put them in a larger context. By taking time out of your schedules on a regular basis for such reflection, you’ll give yourselves a chance to see how small those disagreements really are, and your counselor can give you strategies for how to live more harmoniously with one another. Imagine how much more pleasant life would be without such irritating distractions.
- STONE43 answered Couples therapy can be very effective, but it helps to go into it with the right expectations. If you’re going to couples counseling to change your spouse, you should know that it probably won’t happen. If, on the other hand, you’re looking for better tools to manage your relationship problems, you’ll probably find success. You need to better understand what makes your partner tick (and what makes him/her go “boom”). You also can gain more insight into how the words you say carry certain meanings for your spouse that may be causing miscommunication. Lastly, counseling will train you both to follow through on goals and commitments, which will help the relationship last.
- STONE43 answered Marriage counseling can offer couples a set of relationship-building tools that will allow them to improve their marriage, but it will take some work. Generally, a marriage and family therapist will spend some time upfront working to understand the relationship issues in broad terms, then they will encourage you to talk about a problem until a conflict either erupts or is imminent. They’ll help the couple work through some specific details on that one problem – identifying miscommunication, trigger words, pain caused unintentionally, etc. Through working on these smaller problems the couple learns how to better navigate the tougher issues plaguing their marriage.