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Falling in love with a Cuban Mexican I met online but afraid of commitment. Help!!!

I’m thirty and have had a couple relationships in the past.
I’ve been engaged once, but that relationship didn’t work out, because she left me for somebody else.
I was heartbroken.
I’ve gone on a few dates after that, but I couldn’t find it in me to trust anyone.
Then I met Karla.
She’s a beautiful girl from Cuban-Mexican descent.
We get along with each other, and everything is going so well.
There’s no issues of a language barrier since I am also partly Cuban by my mother’s side.
She makes me laugh every day with her jokes and she always takes the time to listen to my daily stories.
The problem now is that I’m scared of making it official with her.
It’s not that I don’t want to, I’m just terrified that I might get hurt again.
On the other hand, I’m afraid that if I put off pursuing a relationship with her further, she’ll find someone else.
Am I wrong for feeling this way? How will I know our relationship won’t go south? The distance is also scary for me.
We only met online and there’s a huge possibility that it wouldn’t work out.
What if she’ll cheat on me behind my back when I’m away? I’m really stumped with what to do right now.
I need all the help I could get.
Any words of advice, anyone?  

1 Answers

BruceKent Answered:

Hi Anthony28, Rejection is the most painful feeling a human can ever feel. It drains you emotionally and physically. Not everyone in the world can handle rejection. It changes you, so it becomes hard to trust anybody again. Love is not the same anymore, and you start doubting everything.That's why you are confused about your approach. I would advise you to arrange a real date with your girl. An inter-personal interaction is utterly necessary for any relationship. Go on a vacation with her if possible. Your motto should be to spend as much time with her as possible, so you get to know her. No matter how good an online interaction is, it can never be the same as two people having a physical conversation. Make a final decision when you are clear in your thoughts. Also, keep in mind that rejection is better than regret.

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