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Why is he avoiding divorce if he's the one who left?

My husband left me almost 3 years ago.  His affair began as a long distance and he has lived with his affair partner 20 hours away for almost a year and a half.  He appears to be have an entirely new life. He husband was pushing for divorce for the first year and a half but never did anything about it.  Then just after he moved in with her, he sent a divorce petition but then immediately disappeared and stopped sending or answering emails or texts.  Since then, any time I try to discuss it or move forward, he avoids me.  We don't have any children and have no assets to split.  He won't speak to me on the phone and we haven't seen each other or heard each other's voices for over a year and a half.  He says he has no access to email and no longer uses his account. He only rarely answers text messages and when he does, he is vague and claims to be extremely busy.  I'm confused, why is he avoiding the divorce if he left?

1 Answer

BruceKent said on
Hi Riv1093,
It is evident that your husband is not interested in saving this marriage, but he is still avoiding a divorce. There has to be a reason for his actions, and you need to find it out. Try and schedule a personal meeting with him and honestly state your concerns. If you wish for a divorce, be straightforward and let him know. Though you are capable of going for a divorce on your own, it will be appropriate to discuss the matters at least once.  If he does not comply then you have a choice to make, you will have to decide for your life. You cannot stay in a broken marriage, so you need to find a way out.

Riv1093 said on Nov 15, 2017

Thanks for the reply.  As I stated, he moved a 20-hour drive away and won't talk to me so scheduling a meeting with him is not an option.
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