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My gf’s dad is the same age as me. Awkward but need advice

I'm in a relatively new relationship.
She's younger than me by 2 decades and we're currently in that stage where we introduce one another to our families.
I have 2 cool kids who are okay with my gf who is only a little bit older than them.
They're very supportive and it's great.
We’ve only been skyping, My kids have met her through video chat and they’re excited to meet when I bring my gf over (she’s from another country).
The shock came when I learned that my gf's father is the same age as me He is a local cop in her town.
I know it's hypocritical, but I'm a little bit weirded out and find it awkward that I'm going to meet her father soon.
I am a twice divorced male in my 50's and I'm nearing retirement.
I didn't want to be alone for the rest of my life.
I want someone by my side.
That's why I gave online dating a shot.
I'm not very savvy when it comes to the internet.
I literally just Googled what I wanted, and AFA's website was first.
I met my girlfriend there.
She was one of the few women I have messaged and was the most responsive of all.
We were both tired of having our dating options limited to the local men and women.
I don't think I'm asking for much.
I'm only asking for companionship, love, and someone to be there to share vacations and the like.
My girlfriend also said that the local men she has dated and her previous husband were no good.
They're alcoholic and abusive which led to her divorce.
She has a beautiful daughter and I've taken a liking to both of them.
I want to have them over here in the US so we can be one happy family.
Am I overreacting? As far as I know, she's very independent and treats me meeting her father as a formality.
I'm terrified of the thought of her dad putting our plans to a stop because he won't like me or think of me creepy.
Please help me.
Any advice you can give?  

1 Answers

BruceKent Answered:

Hi, I would advise not to freak out. It's entirely reasonable and acceptable, feelings of love and affection are free of societal stereotypes. If you love her and want to bring her home to fulfill your aspirations of having a family to share your home with, then there should be nothing that hinders your will. Don't worry about meeting her father, just be yourself in front of him and do not worry about his response. I am sure he would eventually be ready to accept you just as you are. Just go out there and be yourself, that's the best any man could ever do.

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