What to do??
Been divorced for 3 years, separated for 5.
In that time frame, the ex has had a 3 1/2 year relationship with another man that resulted in a child and one lost pregnancy.
She insists that she isn't happy and 'says' that she would like to put the family back together.
But she will not leave other man.
My stance is that we work on this together or not at all.
I don't want to share time with another man.
Well, you do make sense. I am not sure what your ex has in mind if she wants both the men in her life. You could once again explain your stand to her. If she agrees then it is good for the both of you else, it would be time for you to actually move on and end the pain that you are going through.