What does it mean when your partner always compliments other womens appearance but not you ?
My partner of many years has always been able to say complimentary things about other women's appearance ,but seems unable to do the same for me.
Here is a recent example: He was talking about a woman in a mens magazine saying how gorgeous she was, and I told him that it hurt my feelings not because he thought she was gorgeous but he did not say anything to compliment me in return.
So he said well yes she is gorgeous but you are here.
That was his big compliment.
It has been like this since the beginning of our relationship, and it is really starting to kill my confidence .
Hi there, You need to stop 'wishing that you were invisible'. You are a beautiful, loving and a caring soul... Please understand that all of us need validation of this from our partners - there is nothing wrong with your demand. Your husband is an insensitive ass....If I were you, instead of focusing on his negative remarks or the lack of postive ones, I would focus on myself and my appearances...Do not think of this as shallow. Self-care in a marriage is very important. Ask yourself: have your neglected your appreance? What about weight? Stay exercising, get in your best shape, take care of your skin, put on some new clothes and get yourself some new makeup with bright colors to accentuate your features.... Do this not for your husband but for yourself. Feel great first, gather your confidence,.... you have no reason to feel bad about yourself. He will surely notice in time....m sure many others around you will too!